Comments on: The Time Traveller http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-time-traveller/ Personal Development Life Lessons Wed, 08 Feb 2012 11:35:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Anonymous http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-time-traveller/#comment-17218 Anonymous Tue, 10 Nov 2009 07:06:59 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=3334#comment-17218 I had been dealing with the past from the last 2 yrs and I can say that it was very painful at first because I was not ready to accept it in the first place.Went thru lots of introspecting and now finally realize that it was meant to be the way it was! Had I not gone thru all the mistakes I would not be the person I am today. I appreciate the people in my life I have today and realize their worth much more .Have become more understanding of human nature and enjoy the little pleasures of life which we often take for granted.As for people who have wronged us in the past,God is up there to take care of all that .If we start doing all the worrying ourselves,God will stop worrying for us..... I had been dealing with the past from the last 2 yrs and I can say that it was very painful at first because I was not ready to accept it in the first place.Went thru lots of introspecting and now finally realize that it was meant to be the way it was! Had I not gone thru all the mistakes I would not be the person I am today. I appreciate the people in my life I have today and realize their worth much more .Have become more understanding of human nature and enjoy the little pleasures of life which we often take for granted.As for people who have wronged us in the past,God is up there to take care of all that .If we start doing all the worrying ourselves,God will stop worrying for us…..

]]> By: Glitz http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-time-traveller/#comment-17182 Glitz Sat, 07 Nov 2009 03:58:09 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=3334#comment-17182 I have to say that, if I had the chance to return to my past, I would go back in a heartbeat! I would completely change a major decision I made and I truly believe that my life today would have been totally different had I made a different decision. And I would not now have that persistent feeling that 20 years of my life have been wasted because I was just filling in time and getting through each day. I think I would also have avoided some difficult, trying and painful years. Not really sure that they did anything for me. Sorry if this is contrary to the thinking of most of the commenters here, but it is how I feel. And I guess the whole point of this site is to find out what other people think - we can't all be the same. I have to say that, if I had the chance to return to my past, I would go back in a heartbeat! I would completely change a major decision I made and I truly believe that my life today would have been totally different had I made a different decision. And I would not now have that persistent feeling that 20 years of my life have been wasted because I was just filling in time and getting through each day. I think I would also have avoided some difficult, trying and painful years. Not really sure that they did anything for me.

Sorry if this is contrary to the thinking of most of the commenters here, but it is how I feel. And I guess the whole point of this site is to find out what other people think – we can’t all be the same.

]]> By: Michael http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-time-traveller/#comment-17138 Michael Thu, 05 Nov 2009 06:45:42 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=3334#comment-17138 Adrijana 1. Human = making a mistake 2. Making a mistake = learning a valuable lesson from it so that you don’t do it again, so that you grow from it, love yourself more because you have that understanding now 3. Valuable lesson = moving on with your life 4. Moving on with your life = don’t waste one more precious second on dwelling, ruminating! There is a whole life out there, only if you allow it to be. CJ can you convince Craig to put this as a mantra on his site? Brillant. I can't move on but forgetting step 4 (having said that I did sort of move on) but you are a LEGEND Thanks :) Adrijana

1. Human = making a mistake
2. Making a mistake = learning a valuable lesson from it so that you don’t do it again, so that you grow from it, love yourself more because you have that understanding now
3. Valuable lesson = moving on with your life
4. Moving on with your life = don’t waste one more precious second on dwelling, ruminating! There is a whole life out there, only if you allow it to be.

CJ can you convince Craig to put this as a mantra on his site?

Brillant.

I can’t move on but forgetting step 4 (having said that I did sort of move on) but you are a LEGEND

Thanks :)

]]> By: Sue from Melbourne http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-time-traveller/#comment-17137 Sue from Melbourne Thu, 05 Nov 2009 05:39:39 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=3334#comment-17137 At first I thought "how cool would it be to go back & look at things differently" but upon thinking about it I have decided that I'm happy with leaving my past in my past. I have made mistakes and hopefully learnt from these, after all these mistakes are what has made me the person I am at the moment, I hope the mistakes of the future will also improve on the old model, but that is for the future to decide. My only disappointment is the people around me (family members) who haven't learn't & keep blaming others for there past instead of looking within. Will they ever learn or remain on there distructive merry go round? Do you keep trying to encourage them to see things differently or is it in there make up to be forever negative about the future and that change is OK not to be feared. If they dont let go of the past it will suffocate them forever. Thanks CJ for a very thought provoking post :) At first I thought “how cool would it be to go back & look at things differently” but upon thinking about it I have decided that I’m happy with leaving my past in my past. I have made mistakes and hopefully learnt from these, after all these mistakes are what has made me the person I am at the moment, I hope the mistakes of the future will also improve on the old model, but that is for the future to decide.
My only disappointment is the people around me (family members) who haven’t learn’t & keep blaming others for there past instead of looking within. Will they ever learn or remain on there distructive merry go round? Do you keep trying to encourage them to see things differently or is it in there make up to be forever negative about the future and that change is OK not to be feared. If they dont let go of the past it will suffocate them forever.

Thanks CJ for a very thought provoking post :)

]]> By: CJ http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-time-traveller/#comment-17136 CJ Thu, 05 Nov 2009 05:13:12 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=3334#comment-17136 Hi Everyone, Sorry I haven’t checked in earlier. I’ve been to the podiatrist (no laughing) and then shoe shopping (I said, no laughing!). Yes, thank you for asking, after a rather harrowing few hours made far worse by the salesman who made an impatient ‘tsk tsk’ sound every time I tried to squeeze my flippers into a patent-leather wedge (I felt like wedging something … but that wouldn’t be very Zen, would it?) I did manage to find a pair which almost fit. Thanks for the lovely feedback and thought-provoking comments. How good are you guys? Please keep them coming; I love to know what you’re thinking and where you are on your journeys. CJ xox Hi Everyone,

Sorry I haven’t checked in earlier. I’ve been to the podiatrist (no laughing) and then shoe shopping (I said, no laughing!). Yes, thank you for asking, after a rather harrowing few hours made far worse by the salesman who made an impatient ‘tsk tsk’ sound every time I tried to squeeze my flippers into a patent-leather wedge (I felt like wedging something … but that wouldn’t be very Zen, would it?) I did manage to find a pair which almost fit.

Thanks for the lovely feedback and thought-provoking comments. How good are you guys? Please keep them coming; I love to know what you’re thinking and where you are on your journeys.

CJ xox

]]> By: Annoymouis http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-time-traveller/#comment-17135 Annoymouis Thu, 05 Nov 2009 04:58:23 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=3334#comment-17135 Hi Adrijana, Well you said it.. you dont have to experience say being a midget to know that I would prefer now to be one but that is not to say that was a choice! If you choose to pick up a drug that is a choice but to be a drug addict is NOT, is a disease like another... I quote "unless we’re talking about a baby who’s become an addict by their mother’s choice, that’s a completely different story" WELL IT IS NOT they were again BORN with the disease is.. not everyone who picks up a drug has to compuslively take it at whatever cost...and that is the difference... And yes some with diabeties if diagnosed and keep eating donuts is a contributing factor but yet does NOT Mean they always chose it..some gets onset in pregnancy and all other reasons. . SOME are responsible NOT all... and yeah SOME can be reversed with healthy lifestyle BUT for others unfortunately it is there lot in life.. NOT a BAD CHOICE BUT RATHER A MAKE UP OR ALLERGY.. THEY CANT JUST TAKE A DRINK, A DRUG OR SOME CANT EVEN HAVE ONE SLICE OF BREAD... It may NOW be a choice NOT to take it but IT IS NOT A CHOICE TO BE AN ADDICT Hi Adrijana,

Well you said it.. you dont have to experience say being a midget to know that I would prefer now to be one but that is not to say that was a choice!

If you choose to pick up a drug that is a choice but to be a drug addict is NOT, is a disease like another… I quote “unless we’re talking about a baby who’s become an addict by their mother’s choice, that’s a completely different story” WELL IT IS NOT they were again BORN with the disease is.. not everyone who picks up a drug has to compuslively take it at whatever cost…and that is the difference…

And yes some with diabeties if diagnosed and keep eating donuts is a contributing factor but yet does NOT Mean they always chose it..some gets onset in pregnancy and all other reasons. . SOME are responsible NOT all… and yeah SOME can be reversed with healthy lifestyle BUT for others unfortunately it is there lot in life.. NOT a BAD CHOICE BUT RATHER A MAKE UP OR ALLERGY.. THEY CANT JUST TAKE A DRINK, A DRUG OR SOME CANT EVEN HAVE ONE SLICE OF BREAD… It may NOW be a choice NOT to take it but IT IS NOT A CHOICE TO BE AN ADDICT

]]> By: Adrijana http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-time-traveller/#comment-17134 Adrijana Thu, 05 Nov 2009 04:41:49 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=3334#comment-17134 Dear Anonymous, The example about drugs was merely a figurative one, meaning that we don’t have to experience everything there is to experience to know that something isn’t good for us, or that it’s wrong, ie we don’t have to jump of the bridge to know that the ending result will probably not be a good one. The same applies to using drugs. But to reply to your comment re choice, for most people I do believe that taking drugs is a choice. Yes, some people are more likely to use drugs because of their disposition, their environment, genetics, socio-economic status, and many other factors that I can’t possibly name now (there’s simply too many). However, at the end of the day, it’s still a choice (unless we’re talking about a baby who’s become an addict by their mother’s choice, that’s a completely different story). People with type 2 diabetes, some of them are responsible for making poor lifestyle decisions by not exercising enough, making wrong food choices and becoming overweight and/or obese. So that too is a choice. So they've still made a choice not to exercise, to overeat and the consequence of that is type 2 diabetes, which can be reversed with a healthy lifestyle plan. Dear Anonymous,

The example about drugs was merely a figurative one, meaning that we don’t have to experience everything there is to experience to know that something isn’t good for us, or that it’s wrong, ie we don’t have to jump of the bridge to know that the ending result will probably not be a good one. The same applies to using drugs.

But to reply to your comment re choice, for most people I do believe that taking drugs is a choice. Yes, some people are more likely to use drugs because of their disposition, their environment, genetics, socio-economic status, and many other factors that I can’t possibly name now (there’s simply too many). However, at the end of the day, it’s still a choice (unless we’re talking about a baby who’s become an addict by their mother’s choice, that’s a completely different story).

People with type 2 diabetes, some of them are responsible for making poor lifestyle decisions by not exercising enough, making wrong food choices and becoming overweight and/or obese. So that too is a choice. So they’ve still made a choice not to exercise, to overeat and the consequence of that is type 2 diabetes, which can be reversed with a healthy lifestyle plan.

]]> By: janelle http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-time-traveller/#comment-17133 janelle Thu, 05 Nov 2009 02:43:18 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=3334#comment-17133 When I have a situation in front of me, I ask myself can i do anything that will change the outcome for the better. If the answer is yes then I do it or deal with it, if the answer is no, I move on. Worrying won't change a situation it will just make you feel sick. Why worry about the past, make the most of the now and soon the now will become the past and there will be no need to change it. I learnt this from a smart man, (I think his name was Craig) Its a principal that doesn't come naturally (our instinct is to worry) but I consciously stop and ask myself the question. It works (almost) all of the time. When I have a situation in front of me, I ask myself can i do anything that will change the outcome for the better. If the answer is yes then I do it or deal with it, if the answer is no, I move on. Worrying won’t change a situation it will just make you feel sick. Why worry about the past, make the most of the now and soon the now will become the past and there will be no need to change it.
I learnt this from a smart man, (I think his name was Craig) Its a principal that doesn’t come naturally (our instinct is to worry) but I consciously stop and ask myself the question. It works (almost) all of the time.

]]> By: Annoymouis http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-time-traveller/#comment-17132 Annoymouis Thu, 05 Nov 2009 02:22:10 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=3334#comment-17132 just quickly Adrianna.. a drug addict doesnt choose to be one.. just like a person with diabeties doesnt choose it..... just quickly Adrianna.. a drug addict doesnt choose to be one.. just like a person with diabeties doesnt choose it…..

]]> By: Cdn friend http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-time-traveller/#comment-17131 Cdn friend Thu, 05 Nov 2009 02:20:15 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=3334#comment-17131 I'd love to go back and make different choices. But I was not emotionally capable of making the "right" decisions at the time, so I would've messed it up anyway. Now here's the real deal - imagine right now that you are 20 years older and you found a time machine to bring you back to NOW. What changes are you going to make? I’d love to go back and make different choices. But I was not emotionally capable of making the “right” decisions at the time, so I would’ve messed it up anyway.

Now here’s the real deal – imagine right now that you are 20 years older and you found a time machine to bring you back to NOW. What changes are you going to make?

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