People seek me out mostly because they want to change something about their reality. Could be their body, career, habits, mindset, relationships, performance, financial situation, fear, self-limiting beliefs…. or a curious combination of things.
As is often the case.
And while there are many variables which will influence the likelihood of someone (1) changing as intended and (2) maintaining those changes over the long term (things like talent, time, resources, aptitude, support, strategy, accountability, planning and organisation – just to mention a few), it’s my experience that the single biggest determinant of success or failure is a person’s ‘ready-ness’ (for want of a more academic or impressive term) to be genuinely prepared to do what success (change) demands and to keep doing it.
And keep doing it.
And keep doing it.
The reality of creating lasting transformation (away from the self-help hype) is that it’s rarely a quick, fun, sexy or easy process, despite what the sellers of programs, products, promises and pills would have you believe. In fact, sometimes the change journey sucks (for a while, anyway) and try selling that kind of reality to the masses!
Over the last thirty years, I couldn’t possibly remember the number of talented, intelligent, well-resourced, well-supported people I’ve met who simply weren’t ready to do what was required to change their life. They would happily think about it, plan for it and talk about it but nine times out of ten, I would know when someone wasn’t ready (despite what was coming out of their mouth).
Ready to get uncomfortable.
Ready to let go.
Ready to do what scared them.
Ready to break their pattern.
Ready to do the work.
If you’re not genuinely READY, then all the thinking, talking, planning and intending is merely a theoretical exercise.
And a waste of your time and potential.