Comments on: The Pity Party; Slow-Dancing with Misery http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/ Personal Development Life Lessons Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:10:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Jenny http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-16583 Jenny Fri, 09 Oct 2009 10:11:21 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-16583 Thanks Craig, if only my self destructing, pity loving, resentful mother can understand all this, she is 59 and all the above relates to her, she has turned all our family against each other to the point of hate because of her pity party ways. She has become resentful because we just ignore her now, but she has turned against all of us by talking behind our backs and saying things about each other, basically spreading gossip so she gets our attention. She has a very bad jealous streak and hates to see people happy, she is uncapable of being happy for someone, because she beleives she is only worthy of this. She is also very stubborn and listens to nobody, she lives in a world of her own, and my aunt also says the same things, so it isnt just me. Unfortunatly we cant pick and choose our family, I wish sometimes that I had a proper mother. Ive had is hard in my life but remained poristive and optimistic but she has had it easy with my fathers support and become very selfish. Please help. thx. Thanks Craig, if only my self destructing, pity loving, resentful mother can understand all this, she is 59 and all the above relates to her, she has turned all our family against each other to the point of hate because of her pity party ways. She has become resentful because we just ignore her now, but she has turned against all of us by talking behind our backs and saying things about each other, basically spreading gossip so she gets our attention.
She has a very bad jealous streak and hates to see people happy, she is uncapable of being happy for someone, because she beleives she is only worthy of this.

She is also very stubborn and listens to nobody, she lives in a world of her own, and my aunt also says the same things, so it isnt just me.

Unfortunatly we cant pick and choose our family, I wish sometimes that I had a proper mother. Ive had is hard in my life but remained poristive and optimistic but she has had it easy with my fathers support and become very selfish.

Please help.
thx.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-15904 Anonymous Sun, 06 Sep 2009 14:15:23 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-15904 negativity doesn't buy what it complains to lack. It only attracts lack. negativity doesn’t buy what it complains to lack. It only attracts lack.

]]> By: Craig Harper http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5906 Craig Harper Mon, 21 Apr 2008 00:57:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5906 Hi Candy. <br/><br/>Good question. I'll write on it soon. There's a bit to it...<br/><br/>( ) Hi Candy.

Good question. I’ll write on it soon. There’s a bit to it…

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]]> By: Craig Harper http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5905 Craig Harper Mon, 21 Apr 2008 00:56:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5905 Good work Pet...<br/><br/>( ) Good work Pet…

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]]> By: Candy http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5904 Candy Mon, 21 Apr 2008 00:32:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5904 HI Mr Harper,<br/><br/>What are your thoughts on cortisol, whats it all about, and the body storeing it. hmmmmmmm<br/>Any ideas?????<br/><br/>Spanks<br/>Ms Candice :) HI Mr Harper,

What are your thoughts on cortisol, whats it all about, and the body storeing it. hmmmmmmm
Any ideas?????

Spanks
Ms Candice :)

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5903 Anonymous Mon, 21 Apr 2008 00:30:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5903 Can you have a solo pity party?? I was kinda having one last night....at least I was trying to be a bit "oh woe is me" but my mind kept flitting to positive & fun situations & I had to laugh at myself.<br/>I spent the weekend with my ex's family to celebrate his birthday & I was feeling a bit on the outer, even tho all these people still love me & wished things could have turned out better, that I felt myself getting annoyed at the ex for having not tried harder to win back such a wonderful person. But I also realised as much as its nice being surrounded by these people, I didnt want to surround myself with him. Then this post came thru & it just reminded me of how far I've come & I've got to keep leaping ahead.<br/><br/>TOOT TOOT! Coming!!<br/><br/>Pet<br/>xoxo Can you have a solo pity party?? I was kinda having one last night….at least I was trying to be a bit “oh woe is me” but my mind kept flitting to positive & fun situations & I had to laugh at myself.
I spent the weekend with my ex’s family to celebrate his birthday & I was feeling a bit on the outer, even tho all these people still love me & wished things could have turned out better, that I felt myself getting annoyed at the ex for having not tried harder to win back such a wonderful person. But I also realised as much as its nice being surrounded by these people, I didnt want to surround myself with him. Then this post came thru & it just reminded me of how far I’ve come & I’ve got to keep leaping ahead.

TOOT TOOT! Coming!!

Pet
xoxo

]]> By: Craig Harper http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5902 Craig Harper Sun, 20 Apr 2008 21:33:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5902 Thanks for sharing your thoughts Stanley.<br/><br/>Enjoy your week...<br/><br/>Cheers. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Stanley.

Enjoy your week…

Cheers.

]]> By: Craig Harper http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5901 Craig Harper Sun, 20 Apr 2008 21:32:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5901 Y'know Ilana, I think I'm gonna go with K-Belle.<br/><br/>( ) Y’know Ilana, I think I’m gonna go with K-Belle.

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]]> By: Craig Harper http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5900 Craig Harper Sun, 20 Apr 2008 21:30:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5900 Hi Brennan, there's always hope.<br/><br/>But they have to be in a place (emotionally) where they actually want to learn and change. <br/><br/>A lot of people don't realise what they're like...<br/><br/>"We don't see things as they are, we see things as we are" - Anais Ninn. <br/><br/>Thanks for saying hi Hi Brennan, there’s always hope.

But they have to be in a place (emotionally) where they actually want to learn and change.

A lot of people don’t realise what they’re like…

“We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are” – Anais Ninn.

Thanks for saying hi

]]> By: Craig Harper http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5899 Craig Harper Sun, 20 Apr 2008 21:27:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/the-pity-party-slow-dancing-with-misery/#comment-5899 Hi Pip.<br/><br/>Yeah, sharing your day to day issues with someone is no biggy. Normal even. It's when we constantly focus on the negative without actually doing anything constructive or productive to make it different...<br/><br/>( ) Hi Pip.

Yeah, sharing your day to day issues with someone is no biggy. Normal even. It’s when we constantly focus on the negative without actually doing anything constructive or productive to make it different…

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