Comments on: Fear http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/fear/ Personal Development Life Lessons Wed, 08 Feb 2012 03:09:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Anonymous http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/fear/#comment-5532 Anonymous Thu, 27 Mar 2008 18:52:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/fear/#comment-5532 I ran into your site when i did a search on 'successful failure'. un-LOL. I am Glad I did. i am 44 years old, and I am fighting my demons as all who write. I was going to write this last night, but needed to think about things. You are right. We all seem to like the safety zone, although it is damaging overall. Courage is a very strong word, which is a bold step. This will give me steps on combating some fears. thanks for being there. I ran into your site when i did a search on ‘successful failure’. un-LOL. I am Glad I did. i am 44 years old, and I am fighting my demons as all who write. I was going to write this last night, but needed to think about things. You are right. We all seem to like the safety zone, although it is damaging overall. Courage is a very strong word, which is a bold step. This will give me steps on combating some fears. thanks for being there.

]]> By: Dennis http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/fear/#comment-5276 Dennis Thu, 06 Mar 2008 18:24:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/fear/#comment-5276 Hi Craig!<br/>I just read the article for the second time. Today I was completely paralysed by my fear, unable to make a decision; even when I tell myself that everything is going to be alright, and that I will do the right thing when I make a bold step forward, I still cannot do it. I know this is silly and stupid, but I get really frustrated over it.<br/>I hope that I'll be able to make the decision tomorrow. Hi Craig!
I just read the article for the second time. Today I was completely paralysed by my fear, unable to make a decision; even when I tell myself that everything is going to be alright, and that I will do the right thing when I make a bold step forward, I still cannot do it. I know this is silly and stupid, but I get really frustrated over it.
I hope that I’ll be able to make the decision tomorrow.

]]> By: Ms Putty http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/fear/#comment-5156 Ms Putty Mon, 25 Feb 2008 10:53:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/fear/#comment-5156 Hi Craig,<br/><br/>Brilliant post, sorry for the delayed response but at least i'm responding right? :-) This fear thing is HUGE and you know what it really shits me up the wall! Its insidious and its controlling. Enough to go out and slash it down?...probably not..i'm too fearful i might have a meltdown!Baby steps, baby steps...I wish I could say I was that brave because I do think it all comes back to courage (dammit, i know i've got balls tucked away here somewhere..) and self-belief, that Yes, I am (Good) Enough...its huge. If you possess that 'rock' of knowing within you, I do believe you can conquer anything...some people are blessed with it while others have to work hard for it but hey, we chip away and we chip away :-)<br/><br/>PS Love your work, only wish I got here more often. Hi Craig,

Brilliant post, sorry for the delayed response but at least i’m responding right? :-) This fear thing is HUGE and you know what it really shits me up the wall! Its insidious and its controlling. Enough to go out and slash it down?…probably not..i’m too fearful i might have a meltdown!Baby steps, baby steps…I wish I could say I was that brave because I do think it all comes back to courage (dammit, i know i’ve got balls tucked away here somewhere..) and self-belief, that Yes, I am (Good) Enough…its huge. If you possess that ‘rock’ of knowing within you, I do believe you can conquer anything…some people are blessed with it while others have to work hard for it but hey, we chip away and we chip away :-)

PS Love your work, only wish I got here more often.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/fear/#comment-5116 Anonymous Thu, 21 Feb 2008 11:07:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/fear/#comment-5116 Hi Craig,<br/><br/>This is great stuff - I really needed this. I have been in a bit of a holding pattern for the last few months and since I read this, I have done 2 things I have been putting off for months (go me!).<br/><br/>Yes the fear is still there but the way I look at fear now is to view it as being a powerful source of energy. Instead of letting it hold me back, I am now harnessing this energy in a positive way to move foward with my goals.<br/><br/>Thanks Craig<br/>Regards<br/>Leanne Magraith Hi Craig,

This is great stuff – I really needed this. I have been in a bit of a holding pattern for the last few months and since I read this, I have done 2 things I have been putting off for months (go me!).

Yes the fear is still there but the way I look at fear now is to view it as being a powerful source of energy. Instead of letting it hold me back, I am now harnessing this energy in a positive way to move foward with my goals.

Thanks Craig
Regards
Leanne Magraith

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/fear/#comment-5115 Anonymous Thu, 21 Feb 2008 07:31:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/fear/#comment-5115 HI Craig,<br/><br/>Sometimes the biggest fear is looking in the mirror and allowing ourselves to love ME. It really is simple once we love ourselves, we believe in ourselves and finally we are able to get out the prison we put ourselves into. Unfortunately even for those who are free, the temptation at times to pop back behind the bars of prison(preceived safety) lures us back in. It is recognising this and knowing we can step out anytime we like -the choice is ours.<br/>Gotta dash freedom's calling ......<br/>Cheryl HI Craig,

Sometimes the biggest fear is looking in the mirror and allowing ourselves to love ME. It really is simple once we love ourselves, we believe in ourselves and finally we are able to get out the prison we put ourselves into. Unfortunately even for those who are free, the temptation at times to pop back behind the bars of prison(preceived safety) lures us back in. It is recognising this and knowing we can step out anytime we like -the choice is ours.
Gotta dash freedom’s calling ……
Cheryl

]]> By: vive http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/fear/#comment-5114 vive Thu, 21 Feb 2008 06:57:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/fear/#comment-5114 Hi Craig, <br/>as per usual you have hit the nail on the head!<br/>I often find myself diving into lifestyle changes, only to thwart myself with thoughts/fears that friends will find these changes 'obsessive' and I guess the fear of being alientaed (alonside being weak & undiciplined) means I am yet to achieve a goal I've had for 5 years! comments from people I love like 'I don't trust people who don't drink' & 'it's all about moderation' are part of what weaken my reolve. Is this just a weak excuse, probably. Your thoughts?<br/>v Hi Craig,
as per usual you have hit the nail on the head!
I often find myself diving into lifestyle changes, only to thwart myself with thoughts/fears that friends will find these changes ‘obsessive’ and I guess the fear of being alientaed (alonside being weak & undiciplined) means I am yet to achieve a goal I’ve had for 5 years! comments from people I love like ‘I don’t trust people who don’t drink’ & ‘it’s all about moderation’ are part of what weaken my reolve. Is this just a weak excuse, probably. Your thoughts?
v

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/fear/#comment-5113 Anonymous Thu, 21 Feb 2008 02:54:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/fear/#comment-5113 Hi Craig,I've read most of your articles and I have to say the question/comment I remember as having the most power is "HOW MUCH DO YOU WANT IT?"<br/><br/>And I recall that often, every time I doubt myself. <br/>thanks<br/><br/>Tilly Hi Craig,I’ve read most of your articles and I have to say the question/comment I remember as having the most power is “HOW MUCH DO YOU WANT IT?”

And I recall that often, every time I doubt myself.
thanks

Tilly

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/fear/#comment-5111 Anonymous Wed, 20 Feb 2008 11:29:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/fear/#comment-5111 Well... I took this & ran..... I've been seeing this guy for a few months & we've been getting on fabulously & esp. when we went away for a weeks holiday, came home & nothing!! I got sick of it & thought I should ask some questions. He's scared to get "burnt" in another relationship.... cant get heart broken.... scared... but is aware if he doesnt change his mindset he may grow to be a lonely old man. So I put it out there & said that I'm willing to give things a go & perhaps he should take a risk. Geez... I'm damn worth it. See how we go eh?<br/><br/>Thanks Craig. This post really stuck in my head & I didnt think I was going to leave a comment.... but I'm a blabber mouth! ha ha ha<br/><br/>Pet<br/>xoxo Well… I took this & ran….. I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months & we’ve been getting on fabulously & esp. when we went away for a weeks holiday, came home & nothing!! I got sick of it & thought I should ask some questions. He’s scared to get “burnt” in another relationship…. cant get heart broken…. scared… but is aware if he doesnt change his mindset he may grow to be a lonely old man. So I put it out there & said that I’m willing to give things a go & perhaps he should take a risk. Geez… I’m damn worth it. See how we go eh?

Thanks Craig. This post really stuck in my head & I didnt think I was going to leave a comment…. but I’m a blabber mouth! ha ha ha

Pet
xoxo

]]> By: Friday http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/fear/#comment-5108 Friday Wed, 20 Feb 2008 03:15:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/fear/#comment-5108 You're at it again!<br/>I am paralysed this very minute by indecision and fear. I know it and still cant do it. Whats that you say? - feel the fear then do it anyway? grrr<br/>Cheers! You’re at it again!
I am paralysed this very minute by indecision and fear. I know it and still cant do it. Whats that you say? – feel the fear then do it anyway? grrr
Cheers!

]]> By: mary http://www.craigharper.com.au/self-improvement/fear/#comment-5106 mary Tue, 19 Feb 2008 17:10:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/fear/#comment-5106 Amazing post, I used to make my life difficult, then wonder why it seemed so much worse than everyone's around me..Being the 'Personal Development Junkie' that I was when I stumbled across your site I read pretty much every article, then applied all the relevant stuff and things have improved no end. Thanks Craig, from a chronic lurker ;) x Amazing post, I used to make my life difficult, then wonder why it seemed so much worse than everyone’s around me..Being the ‘Personal Development Junkie’ that I was when I stumbled across your site I read pretty much every article, then applied all the relevant stuff and things have improved no end. Thanks Craig, from a chronic lurker ;) x

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