This may not be a shark but I find rejection to be a nasty way to kick (you when you’re down but also) into gear. After a few rejections in a row (socially and professionally) than you just think “why am I bothering”, “maybe they’re right, I really do have nothing to offer”, “I could never be that (or measure up to it)” or (worst of all) that “I’m not worthy”…Unfortunately these creep into your mind easily but are hard to get rid of (and they shatter your self esteem) but after thinking about them for a while I’ve concluded a few things:
1) It’s their loss if they couldn’t see your potential or value
2) Its possible that it just isn’t for you and that overtime, circumstances will show why. Maybe you’ll go back to it one day or the opportunity will arise again, but at that moment in time; although you think you may have needed it, it wasn’t what you really needed. It is hard to make choices which will again put you into a similar challenging position (e.g. going for an interview) but soon it will be your time and you’ll be rewarded if you put yourself out there even at the risk of rejection, imperfection, pain etc.
3) What can be learnt, gained, improved upon from the experience? Cliché, but if it doesn’t kill you it will make you stronger (although hopefully not bitter and cynical)
4) There will be more ways of (eventually) getting what you want, but you need to figure out what that is (regardless of the possibly painful trial and error until you reach that point).

A friend and mentor of mine had a shark in the form of breast cancer and although she has now overcome a very traumatic experience (chemotherapy, surgery etc) her outlook on life is profound because she came so close to losing it all (she really does appreciate a beautiful day); she had changed and so had her perspective. If we change our perspectives than we can come across similar results especially where stress management is concerned.

Your lack of self belief and strength isn’t truthful to me because although I don’t know you, the fact you can write about it they way you did (honestly & articulately, while evaluating everything) is testament to the courage you have and an inner strength you are drawing upon even if you haven’t acknowledged it yet?

you’re right; fear is the probably the single biggest obstacle for most of us…

Glad you enjoy the blog.

Enjoy your day (night)

I read somewhere recently that it is only when you stop fearing death that you truly start to live. I think this plays a huge part in people coming close to death changing their approach to life. That, plus it finally hitting home that you never know when you’re going to go, so NOW is the time to live it up.

By the way, I love this blog!

All the best,

Hilda

thanks for your thoughts.

Cheers.

thanks for sharing your story and thanks for your honesty.

Everybody needs support and encouragement and I’m glad I can play a (very small) part in helping in some way.

Keep coming to the site, keep doing what you need to do, stay in touch and let us know how you’re travelling.

Best wishes ( )

it is repeated a lot.. if only it was embraced as a model for living.

Thanks for your thoughts.

compliments and a cyberhug..

lucky boy.

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that’s my point!

We DON’T need that life-threatening experience.. but unfortunately many people don’t get this.

Thanks for visiting.