Decisions and Non-Decisions

Life: A Series of Decisions

Among other things, it seems to me that life is largely a series of decisions. Big and small. Important and not-so-important. Painful and painless. Personal and professional. Monumental and incidental. Necessary and optional. Informed and ignorant. Selfless and selfish. Courageous and cowardly.

And so on.

Yep, it’s impossible to go through a single day without making some kind of decision. Whether it’s choosing socks, joining a gym, buying a book, donating a kidney, giving up coffee, reacting to feedback, selecting a DVD, forgiving your partner, eating in secret, telling a lie or switching to low-fat dairy, we are constantly creating our experiences – and ultimately, our reality – via our decisions.

The ones we do and don’t make.

The Non-Decision-Maker

Curiously, some people think they can go though life ‘not’ making decisions but in truth, the non-decision-maker makes just as many decisions as anyone. In reality, there are no non-decision-makers. The guy who consciously avoids making a decision about which exercise plan he will embrace (for example) has made a decision – to procrastinate, to be inactive and to stay fat and unfit for a just little longer. Or, maybe a lot longer. By not making a decision, he actually chooses to do zero exercise; which of course, is a decision.

Which of course, will create certain consequences.

Is it Possible to Do Nothing?

There is no such thing as avoiding decision-making altogether because the conscious act of avoiding something (an issue, situation, problem, challenge, conversation) is the result of a… decision. A decision to do nothing is still a decision. And it will still impact your life on some level, big or small. Good or bad.  And by the way, a decision to do nothing is really a decision to do something. In case you haven’t noticed, it’s impossible to do nothing.

Give it a try.

Your Decision?

If you’re serious about creating some kind of positive shift in your world, then right now I’m challenging you to make the decision (or decisions) you’ve been avoiding. To stop over-thinking, procrastinating, waiting and pretending that it’s a timing thing. If you’re like most people, then there’s at least one issue you’ve been circumnavigating for far too long. Sometimes, making a long-overdue and courageous decision is actually a relief.

And it’s often the start of something amazing, rewarding and transformational.

In most instances, it’s this complex: Our decisions determine our behaviours and our behaviours determine our outcomes. Today, you can make yet another excuse or you can make a courageous decision. You can do what’s easy but ultimately disempowering or you can do what’s necessary and ultimately liberating. 

Remember: it’s impossible to do nothing, so what will your something be today?

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Suu October 14, 2012 at 7:48 pm

Well, this one is a deep thinking one ay?
I made the decision long ago that I wouldn’t be pushed into something that I wouldn’t want my grandchildren to do.
And with this simple thing on my mind I got an ID bracelet and had it inscribed with WWTGT – What Would The Grots Think?
I try to lead by example and live the life of a person who smiles at adversity.
I don’t put anything off anymore as life’s too short for me to dwell on what could have been instead of what I am doing right now. My past decisions have made me the person that I am today. A few decisions were pretty crappy but I divorced him LOL
Here’s to the next 50 years of making decisions! Good or bad, better or worse – gotta have both or it wouldn’t be called living would it? :P
Lovenhugs to all


Brian October 15, 2012 at 7:15 am

Thanks for wise words to start the week from a serial procrastinator who tries his best to stay in remission but sometimes fails !


Evan October 15, 2012 at 9:31 am

True. The other part of the story is that for some of us (like one not a million miles from the person typing this comment) this is a very cerebral process. For others it is more like they flow into doing what they do – and this feels different to ‘making a decision (cerebrally)’.


Valerie October 15, 2012 at 10:47 am

Dude, it would be so good for you to check out Human Design
the science to differentiate how each individual is geared to make decisions. Not from the mind but the design, really check it out.


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