Ask Me a Question

We had some fun last time we did this, so let’s give it another run…
If you and I sat down to have a coffee (herbal tea, water) and you could only ask me one question (any question), what would it be? Today, I thought I’d let you, my readers, steer the conversation. While I’m happy to answer almost any question, keep in mind that I can’t prescribe anything for anyone (individually) but I can share my general thoughts, beliefs, opinions and ideas on almost anything. Your questions can be serious or fun. Personal or professional. Psychological, physiological or philosophical. Having said that, I’d rather avoid questions that would require long, wordy, time-consuming answers. Questions which can be answered relatively briefly, and might be relevant and/or of interest to other readers, will be high on my list. I’m not sure how many I’ll get through but I’ll do my best. And yes, I’ll be totally honest with my answers. Ask away! :)

Like last time, I’ll give away some free stuff (randomly) to five question-askers.

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{ 183 comments… read them below or add one }

Melanie April 16, 2013 at 10:49 pm

Hey Craig, what is your opinion on television shows such as The Biggest Loser! Do you feel their methods ie, rapid weight loss etc, damages the industry? Regards Melanie


Craig April 17, 2013 at 7:56 am

Hi Melanie. I’m actually going to answer this question in the near future with an article but I’ll briefly share that, from a commercial perspective (TV ratings, advertising, brand recognition, the almighty dollar), I think it’s pure genius. Looking at it from the perspective of a scientist, coach and fitness professional… stay tuned. :)


Anonymous April 17, 2013 at 9:33 am

I dont like that people get voted out within the first few weeks. You cant unlearn YEARS & YEARS of negative behaviours & break bad eating patterns in just weeks…… why cant they ALL stay for 3 months & if you stuff up….. send them out camping for a week with Commando….. yes I would stuff up for that!! hee hee



Megan April 16, 2013 at 10:55 pm

My question is, in your opinion why do I keep giving up on my weight loss journey? I seem to only last about a month and then I go back too easily to my old habits of eating and not exercising. Is it really about wanting it enough to make it happen? In theory I want it to happen, tho I become complacent and my minset loses motivation. It’s frustrating.


Craig April 17, 2013 at 8:03 am

Megan, imagine a pretend reality where the next time you eat ‘bad food’ (for want of a better term), you know you’re going to drop dead the next day. Do you eat the junk?

Of course not.

Instantly, you have no self-control issues, no motivation issues and no eating shit. You have the ability (right now) you just need TOTAL non-negotiable commitment. There are no tricks or secrets, there’s just you. Stop giving yourself an escape clause. :)


PG April 17, 2013 at 12:10 pm

Fark Mr Harper, how do you come up with this stuff??!!! Pure genius and logic. I love it. I actually am going to employ this technique. Good question, Megan! I’m with ya, honey.


Mary April 16, 2013 at 11:08 pm

Hi Craig, I am quite a spiritual person and find comfort in how I read people. My question is how do you cope with depression in people that you love. How do you understand that they took there life because they were not happy when all you saw was a happy, successful person that you were envious of? I know that there is a chemical imbalance but is there anyway you would suggest that we can help/support these people. Thanks & regards


Craig April 17, 2013 at 8:08 am

Hi Mary – I think it’s important that we support our loved ones while not sabotaging or exausting ourselves emotionally or spiritually. We need to know where the line between helping them and dragging ourselves down is. It’s certainly a complex issue but we need to manage ourselves first, so we can be great for others. :)


Kel April 17, 2013 at 11:18 am

Beautifully said, Craig :)


Susannah April 16, 2013 at 11:19 pm

How is it that you are so awesome? ;o) Seriously though, you invest so much time of yourself into everyone else and yet still even now you have the same enthusiasm and commitment and even though you come across people with the same issues and same doubts about themselves, etc … you always seem as if … I don’t know … you always have such care and commitment! So how does one become such an awesome person as yourself? What drives you?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 8:12 am

Hi Susannah, I tried selfishness – it didn’t work. ;) Seriously, helping people explore and develop their potential empowers me and gives me energy. I have an ever-present attitude of grattitude regarding my life and I feel a level of responsibility to connect and care.

Also, the less I focus on me, the better my life is and the better I am. :)


PG April 17, 2013 at 12:12 pm

Also a wonderful question and an equally wonderful answer. You’re gorgeous, Craig. We love you.


Susannah April 18, 2013 at 9:56 pm

Yep! We do love you ;o)


Anonymous April 16, 2013 at 11:24 pm

Do you believe in a higher source? & that we are creator’s of our reality? :) xx


Craig April 17, 2013 at 8:14 am

Hi Anon – (1) I hope there’s a higher power and (2) yep. :)


Rafael April 16, 2013 at 11:47 pm

Hello Craig:
As you said, we have to keep our workout changing to give the body a “reason to change”. Is that truth even for aerobic stuff? If I walk 5 times a week 1 hour a day in the treadmill about 6 km/h. If I keep doing it it will become less effective? Thanks!


Craig April 17, 2013 at 8:17 am

Hi Rafael, if by ‘effective’ you mean continued progession and adaptation, then yes. If you mean maintaining your current level of fitness and health, then no. Doing the same thing, the same way is fine if you’re ‘where you want to be’ (physically). :)


Len April 17, 2013 at 1:36 am

Hi, Craig.

What are your thoughts on treat meals, cheat meals and/or calorie cycling?



Craig April 17, 2013 at 8:19 am

Hi Len, as long as it’s done consciously, methodically and intelligently – fine. If it’s an out-of-control, emotional binge – no. As always, try it and see what your body ‘tells you’. :)


Charlene April 17, 2013 at 1:45 am

Hi Craig!!
My question for you is..Have you coached or trained any vegans? I am a vegan and am interested in knowing what i can do to build muscle. I know the protein I consume isnt like animal protein and that could be the reason i can’t build muscle but i’m not super sure. I’d like some guns for my summer tops..LOL!
I love your newsletters i get weekly!


Craig April 17, 2013 at 8:21 am

Hi Charlene, yes I have. It is tougher sometimes to build muscle being a vegan but plenty of seeds, nuts, legumes and maybe a high-quality protein supplemt for you. Also, don’t over-train with the weights. More intensity, less volume. :)


Charlene April 17, 2013 at 9:19 pm

Thanks Craig!!


Leona April 17, 2013 at 8:36 am

Hi Charlene,
Here’s a website you might find helpful:
Plenty of people build muscle on vegan diets.
Good luck :-)


Kel April 17, 2013 at 11:21 am

I’m a herbivore too, Charlene.

Try this site also.

It might give you a few ideas or help connect with like-minded individuals :)


Love in India April 17, 2013 at 1:49 am

My question, one that I’ve meant to ask you for years.
Why did you choose to be so brutally honest in your views as a self improvement coach, in a radical departure from the approach taken by almost each and every one of the self help gurus of your stature in the whole world? What made confident that it will work, given that the opposite of it works so perfectly for others?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 8:27 am

Hi Love in India,

1. I’m not a people pleaser.
2. I was not born with a diplomacy gene.
3. I’m interested in the truth and sometimes it’s not what people want to hear.
4. Some people work hard to be popular, I’m interested in being authentic.
5. I don’t enjoying wasting time with people who are not serious about change, growth or learning.



Nycole April 17, 2013 at 1:18 pm

Mr Harper,

You are my kind of “non-fluffy” self help guru.
Or is that just a reflection? ;)


Poppy April 18, 2013 at 9:12 am

I like that I don’t have to wade through the fluff to get to the facts :)


Sulagna April 18, 2013 at 10:01 am

Thanks for the great answer Craig. :)
For some quirk in my mobile the name is appearing as Love in India, but I’m Sulagna. Hope you could make that out from the picture.


Teresa April 17, 2013 at 2:00 am

Ok my Qu “do I take the brave dive and start my own PD life coaching business and PT weight loss gig or go back to being employed in corporate?” i’m starting my client base from scratch and currently living in regional vic.


Craig April 17, 2013 at 8:49 am

Hi Teresa, only you can really answer that because I don’t know your financial or practical situation. Having said that, if money is not a factor, then it might come down to what will excite you, inspire you, challenge you and cause you to grow… Or… maybe you could combine the two and phase out the corporate as you PD stuff grows… hmmm.. :)


PG April 17, 2013 at 2:38 am

Oh how I love these ones!

What is your number one rule for success in business? (And numbers 2, 3, 4 if you have the inclination.)

Btw, I’ve still been reading all your posts lately, even if I haven’t had time to comment! Still love ya work!!! x


Craig April 17, 2013 at 8:54 am

Hi PG…

In no particular order…

1. Don’t do what everyone else is doing…
2. Be an innovator not an immitator
3. Don’t focus on money, focus on quality of product and/or service
4. Make your passion your job
5. No hard-selling
6. Be gracious and genuine – even when you don’t get the sale
7. You can only make one first impression – make it good…
8. Don’t stagnate – evolve, grow, adapt.. understand the market… :)


PG April 17, 2013 at 12:15 pm

Absolutely love it!!!!! And thanks for all 8….awesome and fits with my own beliefs and practices. But great to hear it so succinctly from someone I admire, who’s a success. You rock.


Khalid April 17, 2013 at 5:00 am

At the age of 55 what is the best advise from you for future course of professional ( medical doctor) man?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:04 am

Hi Khalid, I remember you from last time. Can you give me a little more info regarding your question?


Karen Burke April 17, 2013 at 6:21 am

Possibly a silly question but how do you not get overwelmed with all your commitments?! I always wonder how people drive themselves to keep going when they’re so busy. I’m overwelmed just having one toddler,doing housework & going to the gym 3 times a week! I’m trying to get my Body Shop Party plan business going & totally freaking out I’ll be “too tired” thus feel stupid doing it! Thanks :-)


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:07 am

Hi Karen – I don’t waste mental, emotional or physical energy on shit I can’t change. I control my controllables and let go of the rest. I’m also very structured, organised and accountable. :)


PG April 17, 2013 at 12:17 pm

Something I needed to hear. Good question, Karen! Keep going!!! It’s worth it!!!!


Blossom April 17, 2013 at 2:15 pm

This is a fantastic response and one that we should all follow. It’s all very simple when you put it like this Craig.”Control your controllables” has become my new motto (along with the Serenity Prayer which is my all time favourite). This post is a “classic” Craig repsonse, Awesome!


Neil April 17, 2013 at 6:23 am

Hi Craig, what is the meaning of life?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:08 am

Hi Neil. Blokes always ask this question. Some people assume there’s a universal answer but I tend to think it’s more personal. That is, I choose the meaning of my life and you, yours. :)


Karen Burke April 17, 2013 at 10:02 am

Thanks Craig! Best answer I could’ve read :-) I’m none of that,so it makes sense!


Tom C April 17, 2013 at 6:35 am

Hi Craig,

My one question : Why do i see so polarised personalities in my day to day life, ie a lot of really “angry ants” contrasted with a lot of fantastic “glad I’m alive” people ? I feel like going up to the former and saying why ? We all are taking the same breaths surely !



Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:11 am

Hey Tom, good question. I think it comes down to the way we individually intepret, process and deal with the goings-on of our respective lives. I also think part of it (our response) is genetic variability (for want of a better term) and part of it is ‘learned response’. :)


Nicole April 17, 2013 at 6:52 am

Hi Craig,

Here is my one question: Why do we procrastinate, and how do we change this habit?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:14 am

Hi Nicole

1. It often comes down to laziness, fear or poor organisational and time-management skills.
2. Get organised, face your fears and get uncomfortable! :)


Peta April 17, 2013 at 7:02 am

Hi Craig,
What’s the best piece of advice you have ever been given..??



Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:16 am

Hi Peta, I’ll give you 5.

Learn your own truth.
Think for yourself.
Pay attention to what your body is saying.
Stop doing what doesn’t work.
Let go of your ego.



Peta April 17, 2013 at 11:11 am

Much appreciated, excellent advice!

If you have time, could you briefly expand on “Learn your own truth”…
Thanks Peta


Vanessa April 17, 2013 at 7:18 am

Hi Craig, you often tell us that we are enough. However, there are clearly a lot of tools out there, how do I know that I’m not one of them?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:17 am

Hi Vanessa. A tool would not ask that question.

Congratulations. :)


Alij April 17, 2013 at 5:37 pm

I love this comment!


Gaelene April 17, 2013 at 10:25 pm

~~ laughing~~~

I love it!


Vanessa April 18, 2013 at 7:48 am

Thanks Craig, good to know :)


Aggie April 17, 2013 at 7:28 am

How can someone undo 10 or so years of learning bad things and suddenly feel, think and do differently?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:18 am

Aggie, you can’t. It’s a gradual process. :)


Kayley April 17, 2013 at 7:37 am

Hi Craig,
I am sure I’m not alone with this but my biggest fear is failure. To a point that I don’t try things as my self belief tells me that I am going to fail anyway so why try. Any tips on getting this crap out of my head?
Thanks heaps :)


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:20 am

Hi Kayley, I happily fail on a regular basis. The only difference being that I call it an experience, a lesson, an insight, a minor mishap. Reframe the experience and your reaction will change and your fear will subside. :)


Ner April 17, 2013 at 7:40 am

Hi Craig, it seems I am perceived by others as a doormat. (That i let myself get used by people) I am NOT a door mat. Where do they get this idea and why does it tick me off so much when people say this!!
Thanks lv ur work!


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:22 am

All that matters Ner is that know you’re not a door mat and that you don’t feel used or abused. With this stuff, the only opinion that’s important, is yours. :)


Princess April 17, 2013 at 8:00 am

Hey Craig, although I’ve been “working at it” I still find my head swimming with thoughts/anxieties/emotions on a daily/hourly/minute-ly basis – wow. You’ve spoken about this before but I need another reminder – what’s the best way to “switch off” or step away from the crap that swims around my (and many others i hope?!) heads? One of many things that is easier said than done.


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:24 am

Hi Princess. Consciously shift your focus to something positive. Do a treasure hunt on your life and do your best to deal with your challenges in a practical, logical manner. :)


Gaelene April 17, 2013 at 8:05 am

What causes us to love some people, and not others? Or more basically, in your opinion, what is love?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:27 am

Wow Gaelene! I couldn’t possibly answer this briefly but I will share that, like many things, love is a matter of individual intetrepetation and experience and it comes in many forms. What you might share or receive as ‘love’ might not be love for me (and vice-versa). There’s a great book called the ‘Five Love Languages’ that explores this very thing… :)


Gaelene April 17, 2013 at 10:19 pm

Mmmm…. yep, love the book, it’s a great tool for learning to communicate.

This question is a curiosity for me. I love some of the people in my life, and in some cases, it’s due to shared experience and mutual trust, respect and liking. But in a few other cases, it’s been a spontaneous outpouring, for no reason that I can tell. There are some people I just love.

I wondered what your thoughts and experience were.


Mel April 17, 2013 at 8:12 am

What is your favorite childhood memory? :)


Mel April 17, 2013 at 8:15 am

Bugger that should be favourite (I am Australian lol)


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:29 am

A piggy-back race when my dad nearly killed himself carrying his fat son fifty metres. I weighed twice as much as the other kids but my dad said nothing. We came second. :)


Mel April 17, 2013 at 11:22 am

That’s awesome! Go Ron! :) :)


Nikki April 17, 2013 at 8:18 am

Hi Craig. Any tips on the book publishing process? I have two books in working progress at the moment. They are at completely oppisite ends of the spectrum. One is about my mid life madness and search for fullfillment and the other is a fictional hot and steamy romance :-)
Do you know of any useful web sites with information on getting your manuscripts out there and what publishers are looking for, etc
Whatever the outcome. I’m having a whole heap of fun. Who knew all these little stories going on in my head were waiting to be freed into the written word. Thanks x


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:31 am

Hmmm… I’ll get back to you Nikki… :)


Justine April 17, 2013 at 8:23 am

Hi Craig,
Just a quick one I’ve been wondering for while – are you buddhist?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:33 am

No Justine but I am Buddhist – ish.

I’m thinking about creating my own religion. It would involve Kaftans. ;)


Gail April 17, 2013 at 8:32 am

What’s the secret to having a healthy long lasting friendship ?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:34 am

Hi Gail – many things but I’ll give you one…

Not needing to agree on everything. :)


Anthony Spark April 17, 2013 at 8:37 am

As a successful business owner, what made you decide to go back to study?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 9:37 am

Hi Anthony. My drivers were:

1. Curiosity.
2. Growth.
3. I wanted to become a student in a structured setting.
4. Academic and professional credibility.
5. Thought it might be fun. It was.



Trish April 17, 2013 at 8:43 am

Hi Craig

You must have been reading my mind, as I was contemplating sending you a private message with a question.

Background – 50 year office woman who have lost 55kg 3 years ago, 20kgs has crept back on. I was totally committed, totally came first in the previous effort. That being said, I know what to do head wise to get through, but my emotions over rule. Now through life complications (don’t we all have them) – My commitment / strength will leave me quite often these day and I seem to cycle through the same 10 kgs simply – it is more comforting to have a glass of wine and a chocolate then (lets call it emotional / stress eating
So my question is what strategies can you suggest, to get back this drive that I had – how do I put a stop to emotional eating

Thank you



Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:12 am

Hi Trish

Drive (motivation) comes and goes so it’s a matter of learning how to maintain the behaviours even in the absence of ‘drive’. Some ideas:

1. Always exercise early in the day – it sets you up mentally and emotionally for outcomes
2. Find a training buddy and set a workout structure
3. Use a trainer to help de-emotionalise the process
4. Set some new (different) goals – something you’ve never done perhaps?
5. Remove your ‘temptations’ from your house. If they’re not there, you can’t eat (drink) them…. :)


make a change April 17, 2013 at 8:52 am

Hi Craig, love what you do and the message you put out there. I would be interested in your opinion on juicing, if I told you I was making a glass of juice with ratio of 80% veg and 20% fruit, drinking it first thing in the morning would you consider this a good thing to do? I’m think of investing in a cold press juicer which are farily pricey so would appreciate your thoughts.
Can I be naughtly and answer one of the questions??? To Vanessa @ 7.18am – if you are asking that question I would comfortable bet money that you aren’t a tool :)


Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:15 am


Put it this way, that is a much better breakfast than what most people will consume… a little protein wouldn’t hurt but nonetheless… very healthy.. :)


Vanessa April 18, 2013 at 7:53 am

Thanks makeachange, seems you and Craig think alike :)


Lu April 17, 2013 at 8:53 am

Hi Craig
Could you please give your opinion of the ’2 day diet – Diet two days a week and eat normally for five’ by Dr Michelle Harvie & Prof Tony Howell.
What appeals to me is that it’s not a 12 week program or a ‘quick fix’ as it is ongoing.
Many thanks


Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:17 am

Hi Lu – don’t have any first-hand experience with it but I know what it’s about and it seems to stack up theoretically… :)

Although, it might depend on what a person’s interpretation of ‘normal’ eating is…


Dean April 17, 2013 at 8:55 am

Why can’t we let go of things? Emotional hurts, bad habits even though we know better. Why do we get emotionally involved in crap that holds us back?
Thanks Craig.


Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:21 am

Hi Dean, we’re (often) emotional, irrational creatures and as such, we can tend to avoid logic and reason at all costs. On some level, most of our emotional baggage comes back to fear (of a bunch of things). We need to learn to shift our energy from being problem-focused to being solution-focused. :)


Jonathon April 17, 2013 at 8:56 am

Do you need a medical helper for your team?

Laugh, Learn, Live, Love, Listen


Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:22 am

In what capacity Jonathon? Are you a doctor? :)


Lisa April 17, 2013 at 8:56 am

Hiya Craig.

Love your updates.

My question to you is “If you are having a really challenging day and life seems just a bit too much, what do you tell yourself to feel better?”



Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:25 am

I do a treasure hunt on my life Lisa. I find my attitude of grattitude, turn down the volume on my over-thinking mind and look at the world through a different window. It’s usually a perspective thing (which can be brought on by a range of stimuli). :)


Michael Hunt April 17, 2013 at 8:57 am

Adidas Romes or Chuck Taylors by Converse?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:27 am

Gold question Michael.

I used to live in my white – with blue stripes – Romes, so I’ll go the Adidas option. You? :)


Michael Hunt April 17, 2013 at 1:16 pm

Romes were the hit in my day. A friend brought like twenty pairs when he realised they were no longer being made. Wanted enough to keep hm going for the rest of his life :-) That said my wife likes the Converse so I have been seen to wear a pair once in a while. The Converse more say 50′s while the Romes definitely scream 80′s.


Vin. April 18, 2013 at 6:01 pm

Bring back the Romes.


Mark April 17, 2013 at 8:57 am

Here’s my question…how do you find out what your passion is?

Thank you,



Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:30 am

Hi Mark. Your passion will affect you emotionally (in a good way). If your passion becomes your career, you’ll never feel like you’re working. You’ll know when you ‘meet’.

Also, keep in mind that your passion today might not be your passion in ten years… :)


Ali April 17, 2013 at 8:57 am

Hi Craig:

What would be the level of happiness which people should generate within and maintain it on a scale of 1 to 10 to live a better life in this complex era?




Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:35 am

Aah Ali… the happiness question.

The ‘trouble’ with this kind of question is that the term itself means different things to different people. Let’s put aside the euphoria and exicitement version of happiness (and the 1-10 rating scale) and deal with the much more maintainable version.

For me, happiness is (mostly) represented by calm, contentment and satisfaction interspersed with some regular joy! :)


Anne April 17, 2013 at 8:57 am

How do you TRULY learn to love yourself more, so that you will believe that you are loveable and that others truly love you.
Learning to LOVE yourself. EVERYONE SAYS “you need to do that”, BUT HOW?
That’s my question.
I realize we all come from different families. That can change it all. Did you feel loved? Do you? So if you never deep down felt you mattered, how NOW 20, 30 years later do you change that deep seated feeling?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:41 am

Hi Anne – I don’t know how well I can answer this but I believe in part, it’s about learning to let go of the need for approval from others and to stop comparing. It’s about consciously recognising your strengths and qualities and allowing yourself to be flawed and lovable at the same time. Loving yourself largely comes down to internal dialogue and the way you treat yourself practically. Feeling unlovable is not the same as BEING unlovable. :)


jen April 17, 2013 at 9:07 am

Hi Craig,
Love your blog, you have helped me to grow and become a better person. I want to ask you something that I struggle with, in that I have lots of people tell me I am doing a great job at work, but I just don’t believe them. How do I learn to believe in myself in life and work? I have come from being a successful rower and always believed in my ability and backed myself to win, however outside of the boat. I question everything. It drives me insane.


Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:49 am

I think I know who you are Jen, so.. hi. What you’re really talking about is a lack of self-esteem and confidence which emanates from fear; your work situation is just a practical manifestation of that.

It’s not about ‘working to believe in yourself’ (as such) but rather ‘letting go’ of the fear that stands between you and happiness. :)


Collette April 17, 2013 at 9:32 am

Hi Craig,
I have been a yo yo dieter for 27 years, I have had success with certain programs like Weight Watcher and Michelle Bridges but have found myself back at square 1 – ie overweight and unfit. I need to do something – should I go back in one of these programs or TRY to do it myself? Do these programs only work in the short term? I feel like they keep me on track but as soon as I hit my goal, I start to ‘relax’ again, I want a lifestyle change – forever not just for 3 months. What’s your advice?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:53 am

Collette, I have written countless articles on this topic so I’ll keep it brief. For most of us, getting in shape and staying that way is first and foremost about changing mentally and emotionally. Our physical reality is merely a byproduct of those changes… change your mind to change your body. In may ways, the program, gym, etc… is irrelevant. And that’s coming from a gym owner.. :)


Michelle April 17, 2013 at 1:33 pm

Hi Collette, M
Your comment pricked my ears and I’d like to share my experience & what made a difference for me…

Goal Setting…we all set a goal to lose so much weight but we never set a goal after that.

So we have no where to go, no action plan, no road map….once I set my goal past losing the weight it doesn’t seem so hard or feel like a roller coaster!!

Your always adjusting, amending goals/ road map but hey life is the journey not the destination.
Hope that helps, good luck :)
Mich :)


Bernadette April 17, 2013 at 9:54 am

Thanks Craig
What is the best decision you ever made in each of these 3 areas: business, health, relationships?

As always, love your work!


Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:57 am

Hi Bernadette

1. To dive in despite my lack of skills, knowledge, experience and dare I say, potential.
2. To take my head out of the sand and to acknowledge my food issues in an honest and practical way.
3. To stop being a people-pleaser. It nearly killed me.



Jill April 17, 2013 at 9:56 am

Hi Craig, Have been a reader of yours for many years and been a lurker. Firstly, thankyou for giving us the opportunity to ask you a question.

I have lost my passion and direction in life, I love life and challenges it brings. Unfortunately, I cannot afford to see a life/coach/mentor and was wondering if there was a book you would recommend I read, or maybe a short day course I could attend.

thank you Jill


Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:59 am

Jill if you email me your postal address I will send you a book because I’m awesome and you asked. :)

And no, that’s not an invitation for the rest of you! ;)


Jill April 18, 2013 at 2:55 am

Thanks Craig. I look forward to reading it. I have sent you my details via email. Cheers Jill


Donald Ridley April 17, 2013 at 10:48 am

Hi Craig.
Not really a question but…..
I love hearing you on SEN. I have noticed though that your segment isn’t as good as it used to be. You used to run the segment and give excellent information. I feel that the segment works best when you run it and have your own guests and topics. Any chance of it going back to the Craig Harper hour with Mark Fyne sitting quietly in the background?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 11:10 am

Hi Donald… noted. Thanks for the feedback. :)


Jess April 17, 2013 at 10:56 am

What do you think of fate?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 11:13 am

Hi Jess. I think it’s a human construct created to rationalise, explain and justify certain events and outcomes. :)


Wallis April 17, 2013 at 10:58 am

Hi Craig,
I’m a long time reader and subscriber from Australia – first time question-asker-er 

I would love to know your thoughts on body image issues – when your perception of being overweight (or I guess underweight) stops you from living your life fully and to the max. I’m talking from a psychological perspective, being insecure and always telling yourself things like “people will like me better if I was skinny” or even avoiding intimacy with someone because youre worried about your wobbly bits scaring them away.

Ive struggled with my weight all of my short but colourful life (im 22) Im a holistic nutritionist and a naturopath, Ive had clients who have successfully lost weight on the lifestyle changes Ive recommended for them – and yet I myself following the same food and movement philosophies fail to loose any at all.
In my line of work I feel discouraged a lot – Whos going to take a fat nutritionist seriously?



Craig April 17, 2013 at 11:19 am

Hi Wallis, I love your humility, honesty and courage. :) Like many other things, genetic variability means that different things work for different people. Even for educated people like yourself, change is still often a matter of educated guessing and persistant trial and error. Sadly, you and I live in a country where people are often evaluated and pigeon-holed by their looks. And sometimes, it’s US evaluating ourselves! :)


Ava April 17, 2013 at 11:00 am

What would you do if you had parents that are continually arguing with each other?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 11:20 am

Ava, how old are you? :)


Michelle April 17, 2013 at 11:20 am

I am too scared sometimes to start something as I am scared I am going to get bored by it and change my mind. I find it hard to stay focused on what I wanted in the first place and whilst I am doing it start questioning myself and then look somewhere else for another project to start. How can I stay content with the project that seemed like a good idea at the time?



Craig April 17, 2013 at 11:27 am

Michelle, when you find the right project (passion), you won’t get bored or think about changing… :)


Janine April 17, 2013 at 11:24 am

I am sure there is no short answer to this,but how do i overcome my shyness?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 11:29 am

Hi Janine, you do things like ask Craig Harper a question! Well done. :) Try each day to do one thing to face your fears around this challenge. Start small and progress. :)


Kel April 17, 2013 at 11:26 am

Hi Craig! I’m taking full advantage of your offer ;)

I seem to carry a lot of the same values as yourself (see your reply to comment by Love in India).

In saying that, being so (brutally as some would say) honest & having had so many people take advantage of my compassionate nature, I find it very hard to trust people & form solid friendships based on just that….TRUTH & COMPASSION. It doesn’t stop me being compassionate, but it definitely hinders my trust.

I know I have some work to do, but any tips would be greatly appreciated!!


Craig April 17, 2013 at 12:28 pm

Hi Kel, we need to wrap some wisdom, empathy and timing around our truth, otherwise people might think we’re heartless pricks. Sometimes it’s a skill to know where tough-love finishes and insensitivity starts.

Not trusting someone doesn’t necessarily mean you distrust them. There’s a place in the middle where many people will ‘live’. Not trusting some people is healthy and intelligent and not the same as never trusting anyone.

Not trusting someone is not the same as being paranoid about them. Trust comes with time and for most of us, it’s a person by person process.

There’s plenty of people who don’t have my trust (yet). :)


Kel April 17, 2013 at 12:48 pm

And here I was thinking I was loosing the plot ;)

Thanks, Craig. Your opinion rings very true and I appreciate it a lot.


Jen.D April 17, 2013 at 12:08 pm

Hi Craig,

I know the open question post was yesterday but I just thought I’d ask: is running bad for your bones and cartilage?
I know running has many benefits, but I’ve heard/read that running has a lot of wear and tear on the body. What’s your opinion?




Craig April 17, 2013 at 12:35 pm

Hi Jen.D – there are many variables to consider when answering this. Age of runner, weight of runner, running surface, gradient, shoes, running technique, distance, speed, overall volume… and a heap more. Sorry but I would be irresponsible if I didn’t touch on those factors. The bottom line is that running can be good or bad, depending on how it’s done. Done properly, running will improve bone density, thereby decreasing the likelihood of a break and a few other nasty conditions. Running in bad shoes with bad technique on a bad surface… not so good. :)


Jen.D April 17, 2013 at 12:44 pm

Haha I thought I would get an answer like that :P

I’m 27, 5”7, 60 kgs, probably run on concrete? and not very far and not very fast as I’m not very fit hehe.
I have good shoes (I think), and I think I run ok in terms of technique but I’ll do some research into running properly just in case.

Thanks for your thoughts :)


Michelle April 17, 2013 at 12:34 pm

Hi Craig,
I’m a self sabbotager. I want to lose weight, I want to eat good goods, I want to exercise and sometimes I do but I find that the evil sabotaging voice in my head rules over me time and time again.
Taking it one day at a time, works for at least one day. But I find myself wanting to hide away from the world because I have not respected my body and feel awful about myself most days, it’s not so bad if I can hide from mirrors but then I look down and can see the damage done.
Do you think self esteem therapy would help?


Craig April 17, 2013 at 12:42 pm

Some kind of coaching or counseling might be a good idea Michelle but there also needs to be a practical strategy for change. Removing all the foods you shouldn’t eat from your house is a good start. :)


Dani April 17, 2013 at 12:47 pm

Hi Craig,
I’m a little slow to jump on the band wagon for this one, but I’ll have a shot at a reply nonetheless :p
I’ve been changing my life, like, completely (exercise, eating, work, (ended a) relationship), etc….
It’s been almost a year now, and I’ve said goodbye to just over 40kg with much aid from my PT Elliott Combes (you’ve met him) :D
Anyway…..My question is: I’ve been having constant trouble with (stupid) Hip Flexors ever since I started. I’m only 12kg from my goal weight now, but I thought the problem would “go away” I suppose. I sit a lot for work (like, 10hrs/day on a laptop, as a Kitchen Designer). What would you suggest is the best solution for this? As much as I’d genuinely love to, sitting less isn’t really an available option when working with clients. Could you pretty please suggest something???


Johhny Mo April 17, 2013 at 1:51 pm

Hi Dani (hope you don’t mind me jumping in with some advice)
Get up from your desk every 30 minutes and do a stretch. The cool running website is a good source for hip flexor stretches. I use outlook to bring up a remider on the screen.

What I have found even more effective than this though is using a foam roller. It is painful but it is very effective. There are heaps of you tube videos on how to use a foam roller. If you are a big fan of pain then a rumble roller (corrugated roller) is even better to get into the tight muscles and fascia.


Anonymous April 17, 2013 at 7:59 pm

Thank you Johhny – no, I don’t mind you jumping in. Thanks for the advice. Yes, I have just started using a foam roller for my outer quads, as per recommendation from my Physio regarding my knees. I don’t mind pain for gain :)


Craig April 17, 2013 at 1:57 pm

Hi Dani,

“trouble with hip flexors” could mean 20 things… so it’s hard to give you an answer but… such issues often benefit from an increase in flexibility which means exploring things like yoga, pilates and prescriptive stretching.. :)


Anonymous April 17, 2013 at 8:02 pm

Hi Craig,
Thank you for your reply. I know how inundated you get!
Yes, I suppose there are a lot of factors…I was trying to keep it short. :p
I’ve been thinking about taking up yoga or pilates, so I’ll look into it more seriously now. Thank you!


Ruth April 17, 2013 at 1:02 pm

Hi Craig,
Are you a confirmed bachelor, or are you hoping to meet someone some day?
What is your ideal in a woman?
I apologize if this is too personal.
Alternate question in case the above is too personal:
What do you do when you have free time?
P.S. I love your expression: ‘back one out.’


Craig April 17, 2013 at 2:04 pm

Hi Ruth, can’t believe this question took so long.

1. Let’s go with confirmed-ish.
2. It’s not a ‘plan’ but if it happens, it does.
3. I’m pretty sure I can’t answer that without somehow getting in trouble but I’ll just say that, while a physical attraction matters, I’m more interested in the cerebral and emotional (the inside, not the outside) :)


Carmel April 17, 2013 at 1:39 pm

Hi Craig,

I have a friend who is a physiotherapist who is getting right into “Nutrigenomics”. Do you know anything about it and is it a new, expensive fad or will it be something worth looking into seriously in the future?

Cheers, Carmel


Craig April 18, 2013 at 8:18 am

Hi Carmel, I don’t know enough to give you anything profound but to my knowledge, it’s a relatively new area of science that’s throwing up some interesting theories, one of them being personalised dietary prescription based on an individual’s genetics. We’ll both see what happens… :)


Steph April 17, 2013 at 1:45 pm

I hope I can ask more than one question. I remember answering the following questions somewhere. I found them all very interesting:

1. If you could paint a picture of any scenery you’ve seen before, what would you paint?
2. If you could choose to stay a certain age forever, what age would it be?
3. If you knew the world was ending in 2013, what would you do differently?
4. If you could choose anyone, who would you pick as your mentor?
5. If you could witness any event past, present or future, what would it be?
6. If you could learn to do anything, what would it be?
7. If you had to work on only one project for the next year, what would it be?
8. If you were immortal for a day, what would you do?
9. If you had to change your first name, what would you change it to?
10. If you could meet anyone, living or dead, who would you meet?
11. If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would do?
13. If you were reincarnated as an animal/drink/ice cream flavor, what would it be?
14. If you could know the answer to any question, besides “What is the meaning of life?”, what would it be?
15. If you could be any fictional character, who would you choose ?

S x


Leona April 17, 2013 at 2:03 pm

Hi Craig,

Great concept with the questioning! I’m really keen to understand how you approach ‘negative commentary’ to your blog posts? I recently started blogging again and one friend emailed me quite condascendingly with respect to a recent post I wrote. (It wasn’t offensive or anything, just a blog about how I have taken up a 6 week no processed sugar challenge and how I’m tracking)

It kind’ve upset me a bit, as I don’t understand why people need to be so mean-spirited. I support my friends in their endeavours and am deliberating about what to say back. I’ve had great feedback and people sharing similar stories, this one comment really threw me and I am not sure why??



Trish B April 17, 2013 at 6:51 pm

I’ll just jump in here Leona, because this resonates with me.
I gave up sugar two years ago (lost 10 kilos and have kept it off), and I can honestly say the hardest part was the constant negative comments from friends. I don’t know why people feel so threatened by this issue, but eventually you learn to tune out and ignore them, and change the subject. One thing that worked for me was not to talk about giving up sugar unless someone specifically asked me about it. I realize this is a bit difficult if you are writing a blog about it!!!


Craig April 18, 2013 at 8:27 am

Hi Leona, I expect negative comments (along with the positive ones) because they come with the territory when you have an opinion or put yourself out there in any way. If you’re the best person with the best intentions people will still criticise you because sadly, that’s how some people work. We could explore why they do this but I think a better use of your time and energy is to focus on doing what you need to do (to create your desired outcomes) without the need of support or allignment from everyone. We only get hurt when we expect people to respond or behave a certain way. :)


Loretta April 17, 2013 at 2:38 pm

If you had access to anyone in the world, what one question would you want answered the most? :-) xo


Craig April 18, 2013 at 8:34 am

Well, hello Loretta. :)

I have a question for you. What if my question can’t be answered by anyone on this earth with total certainty? The ‘what happens when we die’ question might be a good one. Lots of conflicting theories, philosophies and theologies from a range of individuals, organisations and religions who all ‘know’ they’re right (while everyone else is wrong). Faith is not fact so if I could time travel, I wouldn’t mind catching up with Jesus. :) x


Anisha April 17, 2013 at 2:55 pm

Dear sir,

I am from India. i am always reading your articles. & i love to read question is how can I control my mind or my thoughts? so that i can think in practical manner not in emotional manner.

With Regards,


Craig April 18, 2013 at 8:36 am

Hi Anisha, a simple and practical exercise is to recognise what’s in your control and what’s not. Invest your mental and emotional energy in your controllables and work at letting go of the rest. :)


Liam April 17, 2013 at 3:29 pm

I have two questions:

What’s one of the scariest things you’ve ever done?
What accomplishment are you most proud of?


Craig April 18, 2013 at 8:40 am

Hi Liam.

1. Walking away (for a while) from a successful career and business and going to university for full time study at thirty-six. My ego was terrified.
2. Helping people face their fears and explore their potential.



Alij April 17, 2013 at 5:40 pm

Hi Craig, my question is this: I am currently on a self improvement programme and have successfully lost 2 stone to date and am feeling happier and healthier than ever. However I have “sad” feelings about my past weight issues and how I wished I had gone on this journey sooner which plague my thoughts constantly – it’s like I can’t enjoy my success without reminding myself of all the years of failure. How can I switch this off?


Craig April 18, 2013 at 8:56 am

Wow Alij, that’s what we call self-sabotage. The only ‘place’ you can ever live, think, laugh and love is right NOW and the only thing you can change about your past is how you let it affect you in the moment. Focus on today and shift your attention to solutions not problems. :)


Anonymous April 17, 2013 at 5:52 pm

What boundaries do you put around answering emails and giving personal advice?


Craig April 18, 2013 at 9:00 am

Hi Anon, I receive hundreds of emails each week so unless I make email-answering my ‘job’ (a non-paying job), it has to be very limited. Besides, I think I contribute considerable time and energy through this site… :)


Phil April 17, 2013 at 7:27 pm

HI Craig,

if you had a dinner with 4 people (mentor, inspirational, funny, a friend) who would you invite?


Craig April 18, 2013 at 9:10 am

Hi Phil. The old dinner question…. hmm…. the answer to this question would change each week for me but at the moment, I find Russell Brand (surprising, I know) to be highly intelligent, interesting, insightful and amusing. So I might do a one on one with Rusty… :)


Vin. April 18, 2013 at 6:16 pm

Thank you very much.


Pip April 17, 2013 at 8:36 pm

Hi Craig!, – Wow, – so many questions.

I am keen to know your thoughts on Crossfit, – have just put my name down to start ‘Elements’ classes next week in my nearest town, – where we learn the moves etc. After 4 of these classes, we should be ready to join the normal Crossfit workout classes, and scale sessions to our ability.

For now I like to run at least 20k a week, (either outdoors, treadmill, hills, flat etc…..say 3-4 runs) and I aim for a challenging bike ride of at least 20k, – plus a swim of at least 1k focusing on form, drills, speed etc, basically to keep fit enough to do shorter triathlons, bikerides and fun runs…..while kinda improving. Sometimes I have bouts of increasing the distances if training for an event….but aim to, (should say commit) keep to the standards listed.

As for Crossfit, – the aim I’m thinking of committing to is, 2 sessions a week, – with the idea of considering it as resistance training as well as utilising explosive power, agility and being great for functional fitness all round. What else appeals to me about Crossfit is: working out as a team but hard, (have never done that and would love to meet and get to know more people into that type of thing as at a gym, most people prefer to go in, get training done, get out, but it’s not social). Also the fact that gymnastics appears to be incorporated excites me, and being a different workout each session that can be scaled to our ability, (so we can compete with ourselves over time). I know I’m never going to be an Olympic runner, triathlete or cross-fitter..but like to challenge myself and improve!

Just however would appreciate any of your opinions about Crossfit if you have them.

Cheers Pip


Craig April 18, 2013 at 10:22 am

Hi Pip, I get asked this all the time because some people feel that Crossfit is the only way to train. Like many other exercise models, I think CF can be a positive, productive and enjoyable way to get in shape. Having said that, the worth (and outcome) of any exercise program will invariably come down to the physical needs of the individual and the appropriateness of the their training regime. Good luck! :)


Suzanne April 17, 2013 at 9:12 pm

I can’t believe I’m asking you this…my heart is pounding so loud. I am really, really, really shy and very withdrawn emotionally due to past abuse. I know you are extremely busy and you don’t have the time, but would you ever consider…taking me for a ride as a pillion passenger on your motorbike while I listen to Alicia Keys on my iPod PLEASE??? I know it’s a lot to ask and it’s a stupid, crazy question…and really, I’m not expecting a response. I got my motorcycle licence on the 28th of September 2009 but haven’t had a bike for a while…I still have all my gear though. I know, I’m an idiot to ask, but you said we could ask you anything??????????


Craig April 18, 2013 at 2:10 pm

Hi Suzanne, well I did say you could ask anything. And ask, you did! Very courageous of you and no you’re not an idiot at all. For the next month or three, my life is crazy with speaking, travelling, media and a new book out next Wednesday but… if you’re still keen when it’s a little warmer, ask me again and we’ll see if we can make it happen. :)


Suzanne April 18, 2013 at 9:29 pm

For even considering it!!!
I am so grateful!!!!
I can’t believe it!!!!
Have sent you an email. Well, I think I have…hopefully you’ll receive it?


Russell April 17, 2013 at 10:07 pm

Hi Craig, how much review do you do when you write your articles? How do you to keep them so easy to read and technically flawless?


Russell again April 18, 2013 at 6:31 am

Because I already made a mistake in my second sentence above!! And I thought I read it over a few times before hitting submit…:-0


Craig April 18, 2013 at 2:13 pm

Hi Russell,

to be honest, I don’t review them too much once they’re written and in most cases, nobody even proof reads them for me. In terms of keeping it ‘easy to read’, I tend to write conversationally (exactly as I speak), that way, I don’t need to pretend I’m a ‘real’ writer. ;)


pauline April 17, 2013 at 10:07 pm

1. does it matter if you eat a serving of carbs ie 2 x bread or 2c pasta in a meal when you weigh 200kg(female 167cm) when you are trying to loose weight?

2. How many calories is needed is 1200 not enough because you are significantly overweight? Is 2000 way too much?


Craig April 18, 2013 at 2:16 pm

Hi Pauline. I really can’t give specific personal dietary advice in this forum but if you care to send me an email, maybe we can organise a five minute phone chat. :)


Craig April 17, 2013 at 10:30 pm

Hi Guys, off to bed but I’ll answer some more tomorrow.. :)


jay April 18, 2013 at 12:41 am

hello! mr craig,
i’ll just copied this question i’ve posted here below from legendary jim rohn and i hope you may share with us how you answer this kind of question.

Do you mind if i ask you one of the most important question you’ll ever be asked in your life?
Have you ever found the opportunity that’s goin’ to take care of you and your family for the rest of your life?


Craig April 18, 2013 at 2:18 pm

Hi Jay,

I guess I found something when I opened the first PT centre in Australia in 1990. It seems to have kicked on. ;) Having said that, these days I’m more interested in the pursuit of physical, emotional and psychological wealth. :)


Nerida Mackenzie April 18, 2013 at 8:43 am

Hi Craig my question is how do you keep going to finish the goal you have set when you have lost all confidence in your self and you feel you are fighting a losing battle?


Craig April 18, 2013 at 2:22 pm

Hi Nerida,

baby steps Nerida. Do you best to turn up the logic and strategy while turning down the emotion and fear. Over-thinking is your enemy. Do your best to be productive and proactive early in the day… :)


Aditya April 18, 2013 at 8:52 am

Hi Craig. This is Aditya from India. I am sure you must be getting millions of emails, messages, etc everyday from your fans across the globe. I am also a big fan of yours. I am not the kind of guy who reads anything. I don’t read newspapers, magazines, blogs, novels, I don’t read anything but your emails. I have read every email of yours since I registered for it. In fact the only reason I sign in into my gmail account every morning in the office is to check whether I have received any email from you or not. The work of motivating people that you are doing is just fantastic. I am sure you must have motivated a lot of people because the language that you use is just great. It is great fun to read your emails and the suggestions that you give are also simple and doable. Keep doing the work that you have been doing, for decades to come. I am sure all those who receive these emails from you would love to get them for many more years to come. I have seen your pictures also and you are a handsome man!

The question that I would like to ask you is:

Have you ever been to India? If yes, how did you like it? If no, then do visit it soon, it is a great country.



Craig April 18, 2013 at 2:26 pm

Hi Aditya,

you’re too kind and I’m honoured. :) I have never been to India but I would love to. Maybe I could come and speak one day! It’s been a pleasant surprise to discover that I have quite a lot of readers from your country – I thought I might be too offensive! Thanks for your kind words – keep reading and I’ll keep writing. :)


Ruth April 18, 2013 at 12:00 pm

Hi Crag,

Ruth one more time. I already asked my question, so it you don’t want to answer another one of mine I completely understand!

I was wondering how you decided to become a motivational speaker and what steps you took to become one? Maybe someone has already asked you this question.

Thanks for all you do! You have been a great inspiration to me.


Anton April 18, 2013 at 12:33 pm

What is the thing you like least about yourself?


Trolley Wife April 18, 2013 at 12:47 pm

For the very obese, and those who are food addicts -diet and exercise changes may not be enough to address the problem. Some believe food addiction is a biochemical disorder that occurs at a cellular level. As such, will power will not work. I think there maybe something to this for many people. People appear to be addicted specifically to sugar, flour and wheat. In order to recover maybe abstainence from these substances is required.What are you thoughts?


A.M April 18, 2013 at 6:17 pm

Hi Craig ,
If you’re still answering questions ..
Do you have any advice for me to stop living in the future ? I’m constantly looking for the next thing and never really happy with what I have & who I am .. I know I compare myself others too much ..


Vin. April 18, 2013 at 6:20 pm

Who is your best friend?



Roxy April 19, 2013 at 9:10 am

Hi Craig, I have a 7 month old daughter. I am trying to think about what I would like to teach her. If you had a child what would you like to teach them about food and a healthy relationship with their body?


Neets April 20, 2013 at 11:41 am

Hi Craig,
Loving your work!
My question is:
I live in the next suburb from your gym in East Brighton. I keep having 3am moments with ideas on starting a mummy fitness group in the area but am terrified to get started. Would you have coffee, herbal tea or water with me so,e time so I can run some ideas past you? My shout :0)


Anonymous April 20, 2013 at 6:19 pm

Hi Craig. I didn’t have anything to ask when this question was originally put forward but today something is weighing on mind……..
As a teenage girl I was called fat a lot by my brother and his friends,
even though I was only a few kg’s over.
However, in later life as adult (early 30′s) do I get over it? On the most part I do, and don’t think of it, but looking back on my teens years this is a major factor and has clouded my memory.
Weight now for me has been a constant roller coaster ride, one which I know won’t continue. I know what to do to successfully lose the weight (eat clean, weights, cardio, positive mind set) , but the emotions from memories sometimes flood back. It’s an issue for me as I’ve previously regained and would like that to never happen again and would like to disassociate people’s opinions from my teen years with my own self worth. Hope this makes sense…… Like I mentioned, on the whole I’m usually fine, until a trigger happens.


Vivek narain lko May 25, 2013 at 8:07 pm

Hi craig won’t it be fruitful for paranormal researchers to concentrate on synchronicity and acausality rather than elusive ghosts or ufos? By the way i have experienced numerous hyper synchronicities.


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