In about eighteen weeks it will be Christmas Day. A week later, the New Year will be upon us and once again, people will say very familiar things like “Wow! Where did the year go?”…. “It doesn’t feel like Christmas does it?”…. “Next year will be my year”… and… “This time it’s going to be different.”
Just like they did the last ten years.
And just like the last ten years, many people will press the replay button (metaphorically) on their previous twelve months of decisions, behaviours and less-than-desirable results. They will do what they’ve always done. Sure, they will talk about change, as they always do, but out in the real world (the one where intentions mean nothing), they will do very little changing. If any. Despite their resolutions, most will step back into their familiar old patterns and habits; the ones they have vowed to change for the last decade. And in keeping with history and tradition, their plans and conversations will amount to nothing more tangible, transformational or powerful than a bunch of inert theories and ideas.
Are you shifting uncomfortably in your seat?
Yep, the end/start of the calendar year is often the time when people tend to take stock of their life. Their situation. Their health. Their appearance. Their purpose. Their… everything. And people often get deep and philosophical around New Year. Reflective.
For a day.
Research and simple observation tells us that the New Year Model of Change (for want of a better term) doesn’t work. Put simply, most people don’t follow through with their resolutions. Most give up within a short period of time. Most revert to old habits and behaviours quickly and most don’t create any kind of lasting change. Clearly, January 1 is the wrong day.
The day is fine; it’s our thinking that’s faulty. The likelihood of any individual creating significant and lasting change has nothing to do with some random number on a calendar and everything to do with that person’s willingness and total commitment to do what change requires. To pay the price. If change was merely a matter of making resolutions on a certain day, then we’d all be brand new.
Clearly, it isn’t and we’re not.
What would your health, fitness, lifestyle, career, habits and results look like in eighteen weeks if you totally committed (I mean t-o-t-a-l-l-y committed) to changing your reality from right now? This moment? Even though it’s not convenient? Or comfortable? Or easy?
To change your life, you must first change yourself.
Throw away the calendar and look in the mirror.