15 Success Road Blocks

Hello. Mr ‘Can of Worms’ here. :)  Well, it seems that my last two posts may have caused something of a minor ripple in the blogosphere. Or, at the very least, in our humble little community. How boring would it be if we all agreed on everything? On with the show…

Your Best Life

So, what’s standing between you and your best life? Do any of these ring a bell?

1. Inconsistency. It’s hard to succeed if you never finish anything.
2. Lack of clarity. What is success for you? If you can’t define it, you probably won’t create it.
3. Procrastination. Are always ‘about’ to change your life?
4. Who you hang out with. Are you surrounded by people who drag you up or down?
5. Self-limiting beliefs. What do you need to unlearn?
6. Relying on (the emotional state of) motivation. Motivation comes and goes. Success requires you to maintain certain behaviours and commitment even in the absence of motivation.
7. Over-thinking. Analysis paralysis; the modern scourge. 
8. Your expectations of others. Expect more from yourself and less from others.
9. Being addicted to comfort. Enjoying comfort: fine. Being addicted to comfort: not fine. Like it or not, pain can be a great teacher.
10. Not acknowledging what ‘is’ (lying to yourself). You can’t address what you won’t acknowledge. Just ask an alcoholic.
11. The need for approval and validation. It’s exhausting and unnecessary. You’re big now.
12. Dormant knowledge and understanding. Having knowledge is not the same as using knowledge. Success lives in the application of the information.
13. Lack of accountability. What’s your accountability system?
14. Asking the wrong questions. Some questions propel us towards action, transformation and solutions. Some reflect our need for attention and sympathy. Better questions produce better results.  
15. Attitude. Like many things, a good or bad attitude is optional. You can be the problem person or the solution person.

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{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }

chebbieanne April 30, 2012 at 5:18 pm

Dear Mr Can of Worms,
Well you certainly got the fish to bite.
I enjoyed your last two posts – truthfully [or am I lying - mmm ?]
Re the “best life” scenario though – how do you know when you get to the best “life” bit ? My mind wanders [which could just be because I am old of course] from this is pretty good and I am so lucky to – maybe it [ I ] could be better and should I explore other options. Have I reached my best version of me or just the good enough one?


Mandi B April 30, 2012 at 7:55 pm

Love this post Craigo! Especially #8


Suu April 30, 2012 at 11:12 pm

I learned ages ago to live the life that I wanted in the future.
Easygoing, taking back my power, and if it’s not life-threatening then don’t worry about it.

Still a lot I can learn and I realised that from this post. It would be a pretty stale ole life if we knew everything :)
Thanks for opening my eyese a bit wider.
Suu xxoo


Lynda April 30, 2012 at 11:21 pm

Errr…..all of them rang bells for me…there are bells donging all over the place. I think I better print this off and stick it up somewhere.


Anonymous May 1, 2012 at 12:21 am

Thank you for this. Lots to think about here. Just concentrating on any one of these points will be helpful for me. I’m starting with no. 2: “What is success for you?” My habit is to keep my ambitions small because that way there’s a possibility of success. So just in my imagination, it’s interesting to give my imagination free reign for a bit to see what I can come up with.


Candy May 1, 2012 at 6:28 am

Like this Mr Harper. You always know when I need a push xo


Trish B May 1, 2012 at 7:11 am

Wow! That says it all…thanks.


kate May 1, 2012 at 8:45 am

umm….all of the above.



lv May 1, 2012 at 8:59 am

wow Harps’s, you’ve been on your game , the past 2 or 3 days, absolutely loving all your topics….I got one of those teens, and i normally catch him out, but so true , i lie too him, not often ,but little pink ones ;) ….Adore the can of worms topic,I’ve got plenty too work with , now, i just love this sort of talk..Wish i had your vocab and engery too write like this, but always tend to be NO.5 when it comes too it..No 12 was an eye opener too..many thanks x


Mon :D May 1, 2012 at 1:03 pm

Thanks Craig, it’s always great to read your posts Amigo :) … Love them!!!

Big Hug, Love
Mon xx


Jim May 1, 2012 at 1:34 pm

2 is the hardest one I reckon.

What about 13 though? What is an accountability system?


Banjo May 1, 2012 at 1:51 pm

100% succinct and spot-on as usual Mr Harper. This one goes straight to the back of the toilet door for further contemplation…Thanks :)


Nicole Lambert May 1, 2012 at 1:58 pm

1. – guilty
2. – guilty
3. – guilty
5. – guilty
7. – guilty

Everything else, I think I’m doing OK.

Ta :)


Gayle May 5, 2012 at 8:33 pm

Oh my. I have more problems than I thought I did!!


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