My success is personal to me.

My success is not dependent on the cheering or admiration of others.

If that is why I strive for success, then I will be doomed to slip on my feet, over and over.

What will my success be dependent on?

It will be dependent on my state of mind being devoid of conflict!
Only then will I be able to become one with my own personal success, that will not have a rats to do with anything or anyone else outside of myself.

So the question now becomes…”How do I void my mind of conflict?”

I may start by ditching the incessant drive to be something that I am not. If I have a major goal, then that goal must be put aside, for it will create a state of angst as I strive for it. My feet will slip in the ditch.
My goal must be only small achievable steps, that as I negotiate them and experience them, they will form and add up to a larger attainment, the goalposts of which may very will move, as the steps evolve.
I can focus naturally on those small steps, if I drop the outside focus on trying to resolve the unhappiness and conflicted state of mind that exists with my dream chasing or bitterness of an agonising life to date.

Conflict only exists because I compare ‘what is’ to what ‘should be’.
Exploring why I do that, will usher in pure and utter success!
Success is here NOW, so long as I commit to doing that, one small step at a time!
Success will begin with the dropping of any comparison.
If I dare to compare…I fail! But if I dare to fail and learn, I win
Not feeling conflicted about a fail is one of the small steps of stepping into MY success resolved of attached conflict.

Stepping out of the missteps of conflict, will step me into success!

And YES! I do possess all the tools I need to do that, they are within!
Step in and find them!

No one else can do that for me, I must do it…….unless my conflictual state persuades me otherwise, that my success is only dependent on someone else, not me!

See, it’s no problem at all for us to be here to support you (and each other). How about you consider this and give it a go. It will work if YOU make it work. I want you to forget about the ten or more times you’ve signed up and walked away from WW and whatever else you’ve tried. Just don’t go there again. Just start from wherever you are now. If you take the notion that PERCEPTION IS REALITY, do whatever it takes to make yourself believe that this is the first time that you have decided you will create a healthy and active lifestyle. And, more importantly, don’t look at it as a short term thing you’ll quit and walk away from. “If you don’t quit, you’ll make it” – as Shelley Taylor-Smith says. How else does anyone cross the English Channel, climb Everest, do Ironman Triathlons or marathons or do a billion bicep curls in their lifetime or whatever other ‘crazy’ pursuits people set their sights on?

Mick – that’s a great point you made about creating mini-goals for yourself and the reward system.

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Best of luck to you in being the best YOU there is!

Sandra

That when I set to achieve something I know I will as I have successfully managed a size 10 for ages now.. and trust me I spent years looking for what worked for me putting it on, off, on, off – how boring I had to find something else to do… take i easy and go back to STEP 2 of CRAIGS points.. nowhere does it say LETS GET PERFECT………………

I just wanted to say that in all reality maybe a goal of 75kg is good and maintanable and NO you dont have to eat lettuce leafs to get there… simply work out how many CALORIES you need each day to weight this (without excericse if you dont do that) and then set the amount of the minus 200 a day (as we cheat ourselves anyway) and honestly it wouldnt matter if that was 3000 caloires in snickers bars… you will loose the weight.. and probably keep it off as you can eat whatever you wnat within that range.

Honestly NO WW or anything worked for me and I tried 1000 times at many things but I never Failed as I AM SO GOD DAMN DETERMINED NOW

Nice post … everyone loves a good step-by-step plan … especially when it’s only four steps!!! How EASY is that?!!!!!

“If only it were that easy …,” I used to say. Now I know better. With the right mindset anything can be “easy” … but, like you say, you have to want to pay the price and you have to want to do the work.

It all starts with a decision and sometimes making that decision is the hardest. I thought drinking alcohol was so engrained in my lifestyle that I could never give it up. Not without being a total weirdo. But I have stopped. I’m a non-drinker. Pissed a few people off … triggered a few pregnancy rumours (mother-in-law will be disappointed when I don’t “grow”) … but I am happy. It’s the “easiest” thing I’ve ever done!!!

Christina: I’m loving your comment Chicky! Gold. Inspired gold! You do actually rock, you know that?!!!

Gail: Try to open your heart and take on board everything Craig said above. The “guru” knows what he’s talking about!!! Stay strong.

Have a nice Monday guys.

Em
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