Awesome stuff about Robert & your trip . . . . .

I want to be one of the ten & make that change . . . I have made that change . . . over the last 20 yrs I have worked very hard at being how I want to be, how I want to live – at times it has been extremely hard, now at 61yo – I see life is too short – I want to be me & the best I can be – I don’t want to live with stress, illness or obesity anymore as I have in the past – (I am in the process of healthy food choices & walking & have lost 15 kgs since Sept.) – sure things will still happen in my life – but as my husband keeps saying – “that’s life” – so now I get to see that along with those things happening & working thru them as they are thrown at us – I can & am now having an amazing life . . . . . the 12 mths before last Sept., we both had a hell of a year with two parents dying, (my MIL was pushed over in her accommodation where she lived & spent 4 wks in hosp. & died as a result of it), hubby & I being executors of both wills, my daughters marriage broke up with her husband going off with another woman & leaving two small sons (2 & 4yo) to figure out ‘where has daddy gone’, my husband given news he had prostate cancer (it was caught early thru a blood test – he was operated on in July & is now cleared), my hubby retired & I crashed my car . . . . that was just some of last year . . . . since Sept. ’07 & hubby retiring & having operation – our life is now looking great & rosey . . . . being retired, we now are busier than ever, but it feels great, feels amazing, feels comfortable . . . . . luv your ‘hard-core’ approach Craig . . keep it up . . . . Margaret xx

Interesting your thoughts on listening to your Personal Trainer. I’m about to start with one in a couple of weeks time. My FIRST time ever of working with a personal trainer. I’m a little bit scared but mostly excited. I’m a people pleaser though so my thought is most likely to be to do what she suggests simply because I want to please her (whether I think I can or not). Interesting how different people react differently.

Craig – I blogged about my reaction to your post yesterday and got some amazing support from my blog readers.

Nice to ‘meet’ you.
Thanks for stopping by.

Thanks for sharing!

David

It’s amazing how one article can produce such drastically different responses and interpretations… then again, maybe it’s not about the article but about the people reading it?

Naaah.
Couldn’t be that.
It must be me.

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For the most part yeah i agree with your post but u kinda starting to come off arrogant and holier than thou. Or am i reading it incorrectly? Maybe Evan is right you need to get over the jet lag.
Don’t you think that you can become a little ‘too positive’ where you get caught up in your own hype and your beliefs and your intolerance start to become a little warped where you actually stop learning? You become arrogant about your beliefs? You make it sound as if in your world it’s like ‘don’t even bother talking to me if you dare be a little negative.”
Even jesus (if he existed)would have struggled with pessimism and being negative. Isn’t that the whole point? If jesus had lived longer and continued on the public speaking circuit there is a good chance he would have become a sham like tony robbins and all the others. You start off with something that you think is good and you end up an intolerant dick.
Not trying to drag everyone down but i realised i’ve been agreeing with you too much craig and i feel like i need to challenge what you say.

You know, there are people out there who do live in privilged countries but aren’t privilged and even lack enough food, shelter and clean clothing for whatever reason. And there are people who come from countries with wars and famine and come here and moan and bitch about what a crappy place we live in. Nothing is good enough for them. I’ve met some of these people, i know these people.

Don’t worry i won’t be commenting anymore.

p.s. I just ate an original glazed krispy kreme donut and guess what? i’m not even gonna bother working out for 2hrs to burn the evil thing off cause i don’t even feel guilty about it. It was worth it.

Ange

Glad you just lost some kilos, not limbs, on the ski slopes of Colorado.

I think you’ll always have an audience of more than 10, cos lots of people do ultimately appreciate your no nonsense… er, blunt? … approach. It’s because we know that under the tough words there’s a heart that really does care about helping people live their best lives. So even if some days our first response is “ouch”, our second response is “what if he’s right, what if I’m really like that, what if that’s me?”

And we’ve also seen your compassionate and gentler side when (especially in the comments) you vary the size of the spoon with which you dish out your “medicine” to individual people.

Despite the wishy-washy picture book and movie images of Jesus, in reality he didn’t worry too much about trying to be popular either. He told people what they needed to hear. He called the religious leaders of his day things like: “hypocrites”, “a brood of snakes”, “sons of Hell”, “full of greed and wickedness”. If I’d been his publicity advisor I would probably have told him to tone it down a smidge, for the sake of popularity. Good thing I wasn’t there!

Bobby Cappuccio sounds like a wonderful person to spend some one-on-one time with. Lucky you! I thought I had a tough childhood, but it’s all relative eh?

Anne

Not that your gonna take what i say seriously because who the hell am i but sometimes i think you gotta just forget your ‘willpower’ or how strong you think you aren’t.
I too constantly fight with those damn negative voices in my head that tell me i’m not strong enough to achieve my fitness goals. Especially during a workout session. For some of us that negative voice is so strong that we just have to stop trying to convince ourselves that we are capable and just start the ‘doing’ just going through the motions is enough for now. I used to panic before each PT session worrying how i was going to get through the pain thinking i wasn’t fit enough to work so hard cause i knew i was gonna be pushed and i didn’t think i could handle the pain. During the training i was so focused on how am i gonna make it through the pain and that negative voice telling me ‘no you can’t’ that i actually became weaker and made things more difficult for myself. So i decided i’m just gonna give it all up to my trainer. He always says i can do it i’m capable but i never believe it. I refused to believe him. Why? I’m afraid of being broken, afraid of someone getting to me, of someone getting the ‘good’ out of me cause that would mean admitting that yes i have good in me. It would mean letting go of the past hurt that i’m so comfortable with. i would fight him all the time, i refused to let him or others break me that whole ‘you think u can break me but u can’t i won’t let you etc etc’ attitude. I think that’s my entire problem. Not allowing myself to be helped. Obviously this attitude hasn’t been working for me for the last 20+yrs so it was time to try something else. So i decided i was just gonna give it all up and ignore those negative voices in my head if i can’t change them. Whatever my trainer says i’m gonna take his word for it. If i don’t believe in myself then ok i’m gonna believe in what he says. I’ll give myself, my pain, my everything up to him during the session. If he says ‘your getting stronger’ then i’m gonna believe i’m getting stronger instead of fighting it and choosing to be negative, if he says ‘you willdo 100 squats without stopping’ then god dammit i’m gonna do the 100 squats without arguing or questioning my ability by saying ‘i can’t’. For now (until i start to believe more in myself) this is working for me. If i don’t believe in myself then i choose to believe in the positive things someone says about me (even if they paid to who cares if it works). It’s the only way to stop that friggin fighting in my head i’m just so sick of it. It’s draining and get you nowhere. I remember reading something once (can’t remember where)they said that if you feel you can’t handle the pain then just give it up to someone or something else. Let someone else carry it for you so you can get on with it. Shit if only i can remember where i read it.

Again i’ve blabbered on like an idiot and written something that has nothing to do with the post or someone else’s comment. sorry can’t seem to help myself.

Ange