Comments on: Bullies and Dickheads http://www.craigharper.com.au/personal-development-life-lessons/bullies-and-dickheads/ Personal Development Life Lessons Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:42:24 +1000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Anti-Bully http://www.craigharper.com.au/personal-development-life-lessons/bullies-and-dickheads/comment-page-1/#comment-19337 Anti-Bully Thu, 25 Feb 2010 22:08:03 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/bullies-and-dickheads/#comment-19337 Excellent post, Craig. You nailed it. Excellent post, Craig. You nailed it.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.craigharper.com.au/personal-development-life-lessons/bullies-and-dickheads/comment-page-1/#comment-18560 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jan 2010 12:35:36 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/bullies-and-dickheads/#comment-18560 Sue Angel, I'm about to investigate harassment charges against my (sociopathic) neighbor also. Verbal abuse, noise, canvassing other neighbors to make complaints, throwing foodscraps and garden refuse on our nature strip, and now we have a fire infringement notice to deal with because we are regenerating the native vegetation and it seems they like to spread misery wherever possible. They have lied to our insurance company in an attempt to make us responsible for their actions. They have killed a beautiful tree. And, amongst other abuse, they call me a f***ing greenie while their 4Walls McMansion and closely controlled garden is mostly concrete. We are in the Melbourne Suburbs!!! We're not moving! Our only solace is - we don't live next door :) Any avenues of assistance would be appreciated. Ironically their web site mentions integrity and respect - they must have a different dictionary to mine. Sue Angel, I’m about to investigate harassment charges against my (sociopathic) neighbor also. Verbal abuse, noise, canvassing other neighbors to make complaints, throwing foodscraps and garden refuse on our nature strip, and now we have a fire infringement notice to deal with because we are regenerating the native vegetation and it seems they like to spread misery wherever possible. They have lied to our insurance company in an attempt to make us responsible for their actions. They have killed a beautiful tree. And, amongst other abuse, they call me a f***ing greenie while their 4Walls McMansion and closely controlled garden is mostly concrete. We are in the Melbourne Suburbs!!! We’re not moving! Our only solace is – we don’t live next door :)
Any avenues of assistance would be appreciated.
Ironically their web site mentions integrity and respect – they must have a different dictionary to mine.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.craigharper.com.au/personal-development-life-lessons/bullies-and-dickheads/comment-page-1/#comment-18475 Anonymous Sun, 24 Jan 2010 21:29:55 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/bullies-and-dickheads/#comment-18475 Sue angel, get a lawyer to write a cease and desist letter to your neighbor. That's what I did, and it shut her up. Then I put my house on the market. I still had to put up with some passive aggressive behavior until I sold my house, but at least she stopped yelling and swearing at me out the window. I'm not familiar with Australian law, but in the U.S. you can take out an anti-harrassment order with the police department. My lawyer threatened to do this if she did not stop and that she would have a record with the police. This stopped the behavior. In the long-term, the tension will be taxing to your mental health, and life is too short for that. I strongly suggest you find another place if you can. You don't know what aggressive wacko you are dealing with or if he will resort to violence. I totally empathize with you, and good luck. Sue angel, get a lawyer to write a cease and desist letter to your neighbor. That’s what I did, and it shut her up. Then I put my house on the market. I still had to put up with some passive aggressive behavior until I sold my house, but at least she stopped yelling and swearing at me out the window. I’m not familiar with Australian law, but in the U.S. you can take out an anti-harrassment order with the police department. My lawyer threatened to do this if she did not stop and that she would have a record with the police. This stopped the behavior. In the long-term, the tension will be taxing to your mental health, and life is too short for that. I strongly suggest you find another place if you can. You don’t know what aggressive wacko you are dealing with or if he will resort to violence. I totally empathize with you, and good luck.

]]> By: sue angel http://www.craigharper.com.au/personal-development-life-lessons/bullies-and-dickheads/comment-page-1/#comment-18398 sue angel Wed, 20 Jan 2010 08:48:48 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/bullies-and-dickheads/#comment-18398 I agree with all you have mentioned. I am currently being bullied my our neighbor. Very nasty individual. The moment I tried to be assertive, he had no option to then start calling me offensive names. It is starting to effect my life in my home and backyard. I feel intimidated. I have spoken to a few orgainizations who had good advice but no results. There is this fine line with neighbor disputes and he is getting away with it. Could u possibly write more on neighbor bullies please. I feel trapped in my own home. I agree with all you have mentioned. I am currently being bullied my our neighbor. Very nasty individual. The moment I tried to be assertive, he had no option to then start calling me offensive names. It is starting to effect my life in my home and backyard. I feel intimidated. I have spoken to a few orgainizations who had good advice but no results. There is this fine line with neighbor disputes and he is getting away with it. Could u possibly write more on neighbor bullies please. I feel trapped in my own home.

]]> By: Jared Young http://www.craigharper.com.au/personal-development-life-lessons/bullies-and-dickheads/comment-page-1/#comment-16931 Jared Young Mon, 26 Oct 2009 06:34:50 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/bullies-and-dickheads/#comment-16931 hey there again Craig & evryone, Just had that meetin with my boss. Thank god thats over. He listened and Im certain things will be better (it also allows me to pull him up if he starts again). I don't think he really realised he was bullying me, and he said he was Embarrassed. I feel so much better and very pleased with myself for standing up for my rights. Thanks again for yr advice etc here. I spent all day searching the web & yr blog here really meant alot to me. Stand up to "dickheads" its good for you and the next victim on their list may be lucky you did too, it may just stop them in their tracks! hey there again Craig & evryone,

Just had that meetin with my boss. Thank god thats over.
He listened and Im certain things will be better (it also allows me to pull him up if he starts again). I don’t think he really realised he was bullying me, and he said he was Embarrassed.
I feel so much better and very pleased with myself for standing up for my rights. Thanks again for yr advice etc here. I spent all day searching the web & yr blog here really meant alot to me.
Stand up to “dickheads” its good for you and the next victim on their list may be lucky you did too, it may just stop them in their tracks!

]]> By: Jared Young http://www.craigharper.com.au/personal-development-life-lessons/bullies-and-dickheads/comment-page-1/#comment-16925 Jared Young Mon, 26 Oct 2009 03:47:38 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/bullies-and-dickheads/#comment-16925 I'm just about to face my bully boss in an hour and 15 minutes. I'm a little nervous, I want to say what I need to say to him succinctly, and although I'm quite stressed about it all I'm going to stand strong and mirror compassion. I'll let u know how it all went when i get back. I've been searching all day for info on bullying and I'm very glad I found yr blog. Thanks Craig for an extra vote of confidence and for making me see I'm not being overly sensitive. It's not my fault! I’m just about to face my bully boss in an hour and 15 minutes. I’m a little nervous, I want to say what I need to say to him succinctly, and although I’m quite stressed about it all I’m going to stand strong and mirror compassion. I’ll let u know how it all went when i get back.
I’ve been searching all day for info on bullying and I’m very glad I found yr blog.
Thanks Craig for an extra vote of confidence and for making me see I’m not being overly sensitive. It’s not my fault!

]]> By: al http://www.craigharper.com.au/personal-development-life-lessons/bullies-and-dickheads/comment-page-1/#comment-15342 al Thu, 20 Aug 2009 11:05:45 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/bullies-and-dickheads/#comment-15342 i can see that i am one of those people who constantly rock the boat and it is great to have role models like yourself who are willing to stand up for what they believe in. Thanks for a reminder to not just be that person who keeps being friendly and ill remember this story for a while i can see that i am one of those people who constantly rock the boat and it is great to have role models like yourself who are willing to stand up for what they believe in. Thanks for a reminder to not just be that person who keeps being friendly and ill remember this story for a while

]]> By: Andrea http://www.craigharper.com.au/personal-development-life-lessons/bullies-and-dickheads/comment-page-1/#comment-14720 Andrea Mon, 27 Jul 2009 23:10:31 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/bullies-and-dickheads/#comment-14720 Great story! Earlier this year I was being emotionally and verbally bullied at work by another female colleague. This had been going on for a couple of years. Got to the point where it was really affecting my health and I didn't want to go to work anymore so I took the bull by the horns and addressed it. Several meetings later with management and this colleague, everything is great now. It definitely wasn't pleasant but it had to be done. She bullied because she could and nobody had ever challenged her for her behaviour. I think we have a better working relationship now then ever before. I used to be scared to speak up but now I'm not....sometimes that gets me into trouble! But I hate seeing injustice towards other people and can't sit there and watch it happen without doing something about it. Great story! Earlier this year I was being emotionally and verbally bullied at work by another female colleague. This had been going on for a couple of years. Got to the point where it was really affecting my health and I didn’t want to go to work anymore so I took the bull by the horns and addressed it. Several meetings later with management and this colleague, everything is great now. It definitely wasn’t pleasant but it had to be done. She bullied because she could and nobody had ever challenged her for her behaviour. I think we have a better working relationship now then ever before. I used to be scared to speak up but now I’m not….sometimes that gets me into trouble! But I hate seeing injustice towards other people and can’t sit there and watch it happen without doing something about it.

]]> By: h http://www.craigharper.com.au/personal-development-life-lessons/bullies-and-dickheads/comment-page-1/#comment-14612 h Fri, 24 Jul 2009 04:08:11 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/bullies-and-dickheads/#comment-14612 sorry for type o's really tired he he bye sorry for type o’s really tired he he bye

]]> By: h http://www.craigharper.com.au/personal-development-life-lessons/bullies-and-dickheads/comment-page-1/#comment-14577 h Thu, 23 Jul 2009 07:54:01 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/bullies-and-dickheads/#comment-14577 I regret stuff in the past but bullies gotta learn and relize that they hurt others and need to shut their mouth and think before they say anything. I regret stuff in the past but bullies gotta learn and relize that they hurt others and need to shut their mouth and think before they say anything.

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