Soul mates? Not sure. Don’t even wanna buy into it. But compatibility with a partner? Yeah, I definitely believe in that! What I do know though is that it’s important to keep a positive state of mind .. looking for the good .. in the world and in people. Because if I look for the negative in this not-so-perfect world .. or in never-perfect-people .. or in definitely-not-perfect-me .. then that’s exactly what I will find. And I choose not to go searching for that – even inadvertently. Share my philosophy or not .. it’s entirely up to you.

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So to keep the blog on track, before I had a chat this afternoon with a couple of guys both straight and not so, they kept referencing back to being one’s self. So in that, I need to simply question the doubt that I should have good people in my life. I know this is not the forum to work out my issues on postings. But my point is, I had so much self doubt last night about relationships and friendships but after talking to others and reading you kind people’s words, I’m very happy because a website like Craig’s as he claims won’t fix it – but it sure has made me think differently this afternoon about my doubts.

BTW you can slap me Kate it’s all good.

I will give you back your faith… i believe in soul mates/twin flame… I just think some people didnt bother to find their soul/flame first – so settled for the surface, you my friend havent done this so I am sure you will or they will find you!

Cheers Kate

(Kate is now off and running before she gets told off) before someone reconig

I never said I was needy for a partner. All I said was I had self doubt that I would meet partners/friends who are not what I want them to be, but rather ones that actually do care about my feelings and boundries.

As Craig mentioned in other blog postings and I totally agree, others are not here to pander to me or be what I want them to be. But this lot, you stand up for yourself and your boundaries and you get called over sensitive, snobby, and they respond by cutting off all online and offline conversations with you.

So my point was I had self doubt that I would meet newer better people, that’s all, not I need a person to complete me, though I was horrified by one school of thought that some of us our soul mate or whatever is probably dead and not ready to meet in this lifetime. With statements like that no wonder people give up.

“his person is looking for me RIGHT NOW! How will he find me? In other words, do I go to the kinds of places that the kind of person I want to meet will be at? And am I really living true to what I say I want in a partnership and ultimately, in my life??”

Yep you hit the nail on the head I am not going to the places that kind of person I want to meet but remember I am part of a minority group – well gay – and that community has more toxicity and backstabbing then you would care to mention, so at the moment I doubt someone is looking for me.

*flys to Vila to avoid being slapped by K & S

Cheers,
Asma