Comments on: Clarity and Certainty

By: Ach… « Sai Choo Muses

Ach… « Sai Choo Muses — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 23:20:33 +0000

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By: jsp

jsp — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 12:36:31 +0000

Thanks to Team Craig – a motivating, uplifting and enlightening talk at GoodLife gym in Wantirna tonight….if you ever get a chance attend one of his talks – from one who enjoyed and attended.

By: Anon N

Anon N — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 10:29:09 +0000

The answer is that there is no answer, as always.
There is no standard for happiness, no magic formula.
You are happy when you succeed in finding joy in the little you have.
It is as simple as that.
People having ‘everything’ can be unhappy because they do not have this ability.

By: Suza

Suza — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 05:41:01 +0000

Danni, I think any particular demographic, group or person can validly justify areas of their life that make it tough for them. Personally, I can’t imagine having the responsibility of children 24/7. But like Kate and Michael, I can relate to having lots of other people and things in my life that I’m accountable to and for.

But the truth is, if we are sitting in a warm, safe home reading this on the internet with our basic needs taken care of, then we are in the very extreme and lucky minority in this world. We lead a privileged existence, and I’m sure many not so lucky would argue that it is our DUTY to make the most of the opportunities we have been given.

I think the key is not to see our choices (current or past) or our environment as barriers or roadblocks to us achieving what we want .. they are things that we should accept, embrace and work WITH to achieve those other goals. Along the lines of what Kate said about not really being able to have a great EVERYTHING, I believe in that old saying that you can have ANYTHING you desire, but you may have to give up everything else to have it. We need to decide what it is we want and how much we want it.

Suz

By: Cdn friend

Cdn friend — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 03:59:00 +0000

And you CAN have many wonderful things in life. It’s not easy but well worth the effort.

You deserve it

By: Cdn friend

Cdn friend — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 03:53:18 +0000

Danni, I’m a mum too – so I know how easy it is to lose yourself. It’s tiring – really tiring. I always say when I’m done work that I’m starting my second shift when I go home. And after the day is over I get an hour before bed to work on my dreams and my goals – no tv for me. I need to continually and consciously make time to remember who I am. Danni, you are more than a mum, but with 4 children of course you are stretched and tired. But you will find a time where you will be able to take a breath and remember the parts of yourself that you’ve set aside. Maybe not now, but when the wee ones get a bit older. HUGS

Michelle

By: Kate

Kate — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 01:47:00 +0000

Hi Danni,

In regards to your post it appears you have choosen what you wish to direct your resouces and time to… and that is a family.. unfortunately we do NOT get three chances at life nor do we get 3 x resources and time and hence… why we need to choose our priorities.. its like the fat lady with a career… no time no time she cries but yet she has time to eat…

In regards to the problem having no one to be accountable to I am 33 single no children (by choice at this stage) and yet I have 2 bosses I am accountable to,a 30 ppl gym class, my consiences, society, my bills, my friends, my team … So I really do not understand nor get your point.. If I am tired my TEAM at work pays big time so I dont do it, If I add a KILO my team at the GYM pays.. so you see I am probably if anything more accountable but yet DONT have peopel dependant UPON me as they live interdependance…

But I surpose like anything I have recently really had to weigh up if I am going to be a mum or not as I hate to to state the obvious but although you can have the good body, career, kids and relationship I do not believe you can HAVE the GREAT – 9-5 CEO career, KIDS (with a relationship), high quality relationship and great body as something has to give…I know I find it difficult to balance mediocre body, job, 2nd job, my immediate family.. so for me
HAVING IT ALL IS LIVING MY BLISS, and that honey is NOT dicatated by SOCIETY any more..I GET MORE FROM TEACHING A GYM CLASS THAN ANYTHING ELSE IN THIS WORLD.

Thanks for sharing.
Cheers
Kate

By: Mel

Mel — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 22:57:23 +0000

Love it, Loved it with a passion, just what I needed to hear.

F*cken Loved It!!!!!

Love Mel

By: Michael

Michael — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 22:53:36 +0000

So what you are saying Danni is i’m not accountable because I do not have children! No, no, no and no. Having a child is something some humans, namely me, are not meant to do in this lifetime. To assume by our replies we have no one to be accountable is not true. Check out Craig’s posts on his views on him being single and childless, it is not a crime last time I checked.

By: Danni

Danni — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 21:48:55 +0000

HI all,
It is so wonderful to hear everyones situation and feel that u r not alone in feeling this way and there are alot of people who feel the same. Craig I love your posts, same “when the student is ready the teacher appears!” No sugar coating is great cause it only makes u fat and gives u diabetes

My problem is feeling that reading everyones replies all I can see is people with no one to answer to other than themselves, they have or can have control of what, when, where and how. I know we all have this option, I feel mine is far from it as I do have the role and resposibility of being MUM to 4 beautiful but tiring babies.

Being mum is not a bad thing, but feeling that is all I am and all I will be, is. I have always had dreams of chasing the happy – what I really want in life and do it for me, but many see it as being choosy maybe even too picky. I do believe u should not be lumbered with something that does not make u happy, so find what really does even if u don’t know what that is. Then why aren’t I doing that – because of society’s way of thinking. Deep down I feel I CAN HAVE IT ALL, family, career and a fullfilling life – but how to put me first when so many rely on MUM. How to change the balance of power and enjoy what is your ONLY audition and lead role in this play called LIFE!

If only we were allowed multiples of life lines – parelling our own all with our different choices and decisions, seeing where they lead and how they affected us. I know my 3 lives would be far different from the one I live now, but would they be as rich. Children do enrich your life for the better (if u keep your eyes open long enough to see them).

I do not have regrets as yet because I am still alive to do it all – regrets are only dreams u were too scared to make real or didn’t take the time too. I still have many years ahead of me, so I haven’t given up, but just have to give in to me

Love to all
Mum
(Danni)

P.s Alan love love love your post – funny how we can still get warm and fuzzies from a straight to the point post from the Man himself!