Comments on: Tell me wotcha want, wotcha really, really want…

By: Susie, NSW

Susie, NSW — Thu, 08 May 2008 08:51:00 +0000

Long time reader…first time reviewer !!. This article has hit the mark with me and that is why I still subscribe to you. I wanted to lose weight for many reasons… to be normal, to be healthy, to be more attractive to the opp sex, to buy normal size clothes.. Yay, that all happened, so why am I still 10kgs overweight ?? You have answered it all in your article. Love your work Craig.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 06 May 2008 13:01:00 +0000

My current goal-to develop strong gluteus muscles so I can keep exercising for my strength,stamina and suppleness goals.

Its just one thing after the next for me.

It is also a daily goal for me to catch up on your webpage CH

Later CH

By: J9

J9 — Tue, 06 May 2008 06:05:00 +0000

Ok, so I’ve been the idiot who’s brought the expensive car (not a Ferrari but..),spent up large – all for the wrong reasons. Knowing ourselves well enough to actually know what we want is the hard part – a goal in itself! Just love your inspiring blogs Craig. Thank you. J9

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Tue, 06 May 2008 04:58:00 +0000

Ya’ got me there Kel. Doh!

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Tue, 06 May 2008 04:57:00 +0000

Hi Ben. Thanks for sharing..

Cheers

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Tue, 06 May 2008 04:56:00 +0000

Hey Sporty. Yep, you, me and the girls at the CF. Done ( )

By: Kelvin Kao

Kelvin Kao — Tue, 06 May 2008 04:17:00 +0000

Craig, how did you know that car costs ten grand a year to insure, and five grand for each service? Are you writing from experience or did you do research on it?

By: Ben

Ben — Tue, 06 May 2008 03:25:00 +0000

I can only speak from personal experience but sometimes it's not a goal that needs to be focussed on, but a habit or habits that need to be changed. Successfully changing a habit or habits may lead to the goal – sometimes the goal is not really a goal either. There also needs to be a willingness to learn from failed habit change attempts and to try again without getting down on oneself.

I had a goal that I had many failed attempts at. Once I realised that it was a habit I needed to change and I worked out my motivations for making this change, and that I then needed to continually monitor and record my success in this habit change, the goal I had was reached very easily. I also extended the terms of this goal. I am also using the same process to change some other habits which are related.

Maybe the problem with goals is that they have a completion point. If one hasn’t worked out what they are going to do once they have reached that completion point, and whether the motivations for achieving the goal have been met, then there will be the feeling of “now what happens?”

Using the example of someone setting the goal of losing 25 kilos the following thoughts occur to me. There are three issues that need to be examined. One, what are the motivations for achieving the goal. Two, what habits need to be changed, what habits need to be eliminated, what habits need to be introduced, how will the habit changes be measured and what plans are in place for any “bumps in the road.” Three, what happens once the goal has been achieved – how is a relapse into “bad” habits going to be prevented.

Thanks Craig for giving me plenty to think about as usual.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 06 May 2008 02:17:00 +0000

That's gold Craig, GOLD!! Harsh, but fair and funny as hell. Nice post big fella!

Marty

By: Sporty Spice

Sporty Spice — Tue, 06 May 2008 01:21:00 +0000

You’re welcome about the song Craig.

Perhaps, we should invite Posh and Becks to The Cheesecake Factory for a nosh up?