Take the gay community – many of them crave a partner, they call them husbands, my man and all that crap. They want that love, that need for approval. When they get it they shove them at you ‘oh look what i’ve got’ don’t touch him. Then promptly either have 3 ways or more with others, dump the partner after 3 weeks of an LTR and get on chat lines to moan how he did me wrong or vent their life’s issues out on the person, Then you get the single ones saying don’t touch him he’s partnered when you know you have seen the person at the venues with others who ain’t their partner. Such hypocrites. We could debate everything on your site to counter this, my point is this however – if you ain’t hurting anyone what’s the problem? If you choose kids and wife and dog and mortage or not, what’s wrong with either way? But no society isn’t happy either way with your choice.

Just as well i’ve given up people pleasing thanks Craig for great articles, had to vent as this post is spot on about how we, not saying all, but how sometimes I see no one happy when they got the one of two magical things everyone falls over to get – a partner and a career – which we moan when we don’t have and destroy when we have.

Cheers
Mike Brisbane

Wow! That’s quite the brave, insightful, honest comment. Well done. It would take me an hour to answer this properly – so I have a thought. What do you think about me using your letter as a daily post on the site (in the next week or so)and my readers can give you advice and share from their experience (I’ll chuck in my thoughts also)? If you’re not comfortable with that, that’s completely cool. What state do you live in BTW?

Cheers.

1. age 43
2. getting divorced – best news in a while.
3. overseas with big corporation 10 years as part of 20 yr career in same industry – result sacked 3x (they say retrenched)and dumped back in Oz. At risk of being sacked 3x since returned.
4. Now doing things I did 15 years ago to maintain some kind of decent salary.
5. Polish girl I stupidly married and brought back is getting residence visa, I’m getting depression, a bunch of smart mouth for my trouble and nothing else out of it.
6. Luckily no kids ie my life won’t screw up theirs
7. Working in the best of corporate management Oz style ie no company plans, cohesion or direction, continual overload while they pull resources out from under your feet – yes one of Australia’s “top employers”. MBA’s obviously teach managers a lot.
8. 10 kilos overweight, had heart operation in April.
9. no love in my life from any source (mum aside)
10. Can’t find a divorce lawyer that will actually help me instead of just take my money.
11. Completely lost in my career, went to 2 counsellors, one charged a lot of $ and gave me a list of 100 jobs I could do (so helpful – not), the other wanted even more $ to get half an answer and then wanted more $ again to actually find out an answer (I didn’t bother as I thought there’d be another catch).
12. No friends network and don’t know where to find people I can connect with. Don’t know how to connect with fellow Aussie blokes because I don’t follow football or drink beer.
13. Life is pretty much utterly meaningless -no I’m not suicidal – see I’m still smiling ! grrr
14. Don’t own a house therefore renting – therefore afraid to jump out of the system and find something else and lose the income I’ve worked 20 yrs for that will hopefully get me a house one day so I don’t live on the street in my old age.

At a loss as to how to even begin to sort this out. Sounds like going backpacking is the best solution at this point although it wouldn’t solve anything.

Do you have procedures for basket cases?

Stu grr

I had to jump for joy when I read this post because like you, I’ve been single my entire life. Never married, no kids. I’m used to it and I love it.

Let me raise a glass in toasting you for blogging about it!

People no longer ask me, “Are you seeing anyone?” Occasionally I get “Are you married?” (with them glancing down on my left hand).

I find it amusing that society has deemed us “weird” if we haven’t checked off that box within a certain amount of time.

With the heartbreaking divorce rates in America, who says marriage is the answer? I’m willing to bet those divorces are the result of getting married under some kind of pressure, whether subtle or real.

You and I join the ranks of happily single men! Whooooooooo!

ARE YOU SEEEING ANYONE?????

There is nothing more miserable and lonely than being unhappily married. Ask around. You will never question again!

Congrats

Manhug ( )

Cheers.