Comments on: Living Consciously in an Unconscious World http://www.craigharper.com.au/happiness/living-consciously-in-an-unconscious-world/ Personal Development Life Lessons Thu, 09 Feb 2012 02:43:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: artemis http://www.craigharper.com.au/happiness/living-consciously-in-an-unconscious-world/#comment-20044 artemis Wed, 17 Mar 2010 22:45:31 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=4500#comment-20044 Hi Craig, I don't always cope with reading lessons (posts) at times because the last 3-4years soo much has happened to me that I feel (at times) overwhelmed by them. But I really love what you have to say so I always store them in my CRAIG HARPER file. All my childhood I was brought up with boundaries. I was bashed and emotionally abused by my father. My mother and siblings all went through the same ordeal. I was never allowed to have an opinion and I never counted as a person (a child at the time). My feelings and ideas were never an option to my father. All my life I felt like I was living (or trying to survive) in a cell. These boundaries and limitations stayed with me until I married at 23yrs old(thank God of my own choice). Even when I married dare would I ask my husband to do my own thing or think of myself. Thankfully he was a caring person and treated me well. I ended in a burn out situation (after 23yrs marriage) and came to realize that I still was living within boundaries because of the impact my childhood stiill had.. Now after 3-4years I have changed extremely I am learning to listen to my heart and I voice my opinion to everyone around me. Its been extremely hard for people around me to accept such a great change. But I promised myself and owe it to myself to be there for me and to find me, so I feel I am living for me and not for others. I am grateful there are people like you Craig who help me find small steps back into my life. Hi Craig, I don’t always cope with reading lessons (posts) at times because the last 3-4years soo much has happened to me that I feel (at times) overwhelmed by them. But I really love what you have to say so I always store them in my CRAIG HARPER file.
All my childhood I was brought up with boundaries. I was bashed and emotionally abused by my father. My mother and siblings all went through the same ordeal.
I was never allowed to have an opinion and I never counted as a person (a child at the time). My feelings and ideas were never an option to my father.
All my life I felt like I was living (or trying to survive) in a cell. These boundaries and limitations stayed with me until I married at 23yrs old(thank God of my own choice).
Even when I married dare would I ask my husband to do my own thing or think of myself. Thankfully he was a caring person and treated me well. I ended in a burn out situation (after 23yrs marriage) and came to realize that I still was living within boundaries because of the impact my childhood stiill had..
Now after 3-4years I have changed extremely I am learning to listen to my heart and I voice my opinion to everyone around me.

Its been extremely hard for people around me to accept such a great change. But I promised myself and owe it to myself to be there for me and to find me, so I feel I am living for me and not for others.
I am grateful there are people like you Craig who help me find small steps back into my life.

]]> By: PCD http://www.craigharper.com.au/happiness/living-consciously-in-an-unconscious-world/#comment-20014 PCD Wed, 17 Mar 2010 11:05:39 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=4500#comment-20014 Several monkeys were placed in a large cage. A banana was then hung from the middle of the cage at a height not easily accessible to the monkeys. A ladder was placed under the monkeys in order to facilitate their reach. Though the monkeys were in for a rude awakening; the scientists had rigged the ladder with a sensor which would trigger a flood of cold water whenever a monkey climbed too close to the banana. Their theory being that all monkeys would suffer the actions of the one attempting to reach the banana. Obviously, the first monkey going for the banana got everyone doused. The second monkey, and the third taught the group that the banana had to be rigged. Once all the monkeys had gotten used to the idea that the banana was off limits, the scientists replaced one of them with a new monkey unaware of the rigged ladder. When this monkey noticed the banana, he of course made straight for the ladder but as he was climbing, the other monkeys, ice cold water fresh in their minds, attacked him and beat him into never wanting another banana again. Another monkey was traded, and then another, until all the monkeys which had actually received the cold water treatment had been replaced with ones that had no idea. Every new monkey who obviously wanted and tried for the banana was beaten into the same “Forget the banana” state. Finally, when the last monkey was brought in, and after he was duly beaten for attempting the banana, he asked all the other monkeys why they were beating him up. The answer? “It’s how we’ve always done things around here”. <<I>> Several monkeys were placed in a large cage. A banana was then hung from the middle of the cage at a height not easily accessible to the monkeys. A ladder was placed under the monkeys in order to facilitate their reach. Though the monkeys were in for a rude awakening; the scientists had rigged the ladder with a sensor which would trigger a flood of cold water whenever a monkey climbed too close to the banana. Their theory being that all monkeys would suffer the actions of the one attempting to reach the banana.

Obviously, the first monkey going for the banana got everyone doused. The second monkey, and the third taught the group that the banana had to be rigged. Once all the monkeys had gotten used to the idea that the banana was off limits, the scientists replaced one of them with a new monkey unaware of the rigged ladder. When this monkey noticed the banana, he of course made straight for the ladder but as he was climbing, the other monkeys, ice cold water fresh in their minds, attacked him and beat him into never wanting another banana again.

Another monkey was traded, and then another, until all the monkeys which had actually received the cold water treatment had been replaced with ones that had no idea. Every new monkey who obviously wanted and tried for the banana was beaten into the same “Forget the banana” state. Finally, when the last monkey was brought in, and after he was duly beaten for attempting the banana, he asked all the other monkeys why they were beating him up. The answer? “It’s how we’ve always done things around here”.

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]]> By: Kate http://www.craigharper.com.au/happiness/living-consciously-in-an-unconscious-world/#comment-19988 Kate Tue, 16 Mar 2010 22:36:15 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=4500#comment-19988 And I come up with the strangest things! Tell you what I think I have a competitor! in you X Kate But Michaell, Michael, Michael in regards to your ????'s you just dont know if Craig might just reach that level of enightenment.. but then the question would be if the page was publish blank how would we know? :0 * I never claimed to be normal! And I come up with the strangest things! Tell you what I think I have a competitor! in you X Kate

But Michaell, Michael, Michael in regards to your ????’s you just dont know if Craig might just reach that level of enightenment.. but then the question would be if the page was publish blank how would we know? :0

* I never claimed to be normal!

]]> By: Michael http://www.craigharper.com.au/happiness/living-consciously-in-an-unconscious-world/#comment-19935 Michael Tue, 16 Mar 2010 02:25:33 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=4500#comment-19935 Why would Craig publish a blank page Kate??????? You come out with the strangest things sometimes :) Keep that up ;) I had a think about the replies and thought Michelle's was good. The obsticle is a strange thing. When we are counscious we can discern the obsticle. When we are not we keep bumping into it. I know that statement is abstract but Craig knows what I mean :) Why would Craig publish a blank page Kate??????? You come out with the strangest things sometimes :) Keep that up ;)

I had a think about the replies and thought Michelle’s was good. The obsticle is a strange thing. When we are counscious we can discern the obsticle. When we are not we keep bumping into it. I know that statement is abstract but Craig knows what I mean :)

]]> By: Kate http://www.craigharper.com.au/happiness/living-consciously-in-an-unconscious-world/#comment-19930 Kate Mon, 15 Mar 2010 22:16:46 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=4500#comment-19930 past isnt fun, future holds to much, NOW Craig! lol *wondering if Craig will ever publish a blank page. past isnt fun, future holds to much, NOW Craig! lol

*wondering if Craig will ever publish a blank page.

]]> By: jsp http://www.craigharper.com.au/happiness/living-consciously-in-an-unconscious-world/#comment-19923 jsp Mon, 15 Mar 2010 11:59:42 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=4500#comment-19923 Wow, reaching out to so many. So many of your bloggers seem so conscious; its great that more are hopping on to the enlightening shift. I too nominate your writing for an award, great reading. Wow, reaching out to so many. So many of your bloggers seem so conscious; its great that more are hopping on to the enlightening shift. I too nominate your writing for an award, great reading.

]]> By: Daune http://www.craigharper.com.au/happiness/living-consciously-in-an-unconscious-world/#comment-19922 Daune Mon, 15 Mar 2010 05:23:55 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=4500#comment-19922 No it's Daune. A spelling variant of the English Dawn. No it’s Daune. A spelling variant of the English Dawn.

]]> By: rene' waguespack http://www.craigharper.com.au/happiness/living-consciously-in-an-unconscious-world/#comment-19919 rene' waguespack Mon, 15 Mar 2010 03:25:56 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=4500#comment-19919 Craig, Don't underestimate yourself...You are indeed my guru. Best, rene' waguespack Craig,

Don’t underestimate yourself…You are indeed my guru.

Best,

rene’ waguespack

]]> By: Craig http://www.craigharper.com.au/happiness/living-consciously-in-an-unconscious-world/#comment-19917 Craig Mon, 15 Mar 2010 01:02:16 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=4500#comment-19917 You're welcome Michelle... :) xx You’re welcome Michelle… :) xx

]]> By: Craig http://www.craigharper.com.au/happiness/living-consciously-in-an-unconscious-world/#comment-19916 Craig Mon, 15 Mar 2010 01:01:43 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/?p=4500#comment-19916 Great question Jayne. The fact that you have the 'awareness' that you've slipped is the start of you moving back into a more conscious place. The busy-ness and chaos of our world means that it's almost impossible for any of us to be a constant picture of cool, calm, consciousness. The fact that you are asking these questions, seeking growth and are aware of your 'state' means that you're on the right track. Keep it up. :) Great question Jayne.

The fact that you have the ‘awareness’ that you’ve slipped is the start of you moving back into a more conscious place. The busy-ness and chaos of our world means that it’s almost impossible for any of us to be a constant picture of cool, calm, consciousness.

The fact that you are asking these questions, seeking growth and are aware of your ‘state’ means that you’re on the right track.

Keep it up. :)

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