Comments on: Happily Imperfect

By: MsAnonymous

MsAnonymous — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 05:19:46 +0000

I’ve never known what it’s like to accept me for who and what and why I am.
Surviving an abusive childhood, the scars of which lingered into my 20s and 30s inspite of my best efforts to free myself from the pain, fear, anger and despair, I am now in my early 40s and dislike ME quite intensely.
According to anyone around me, I am never “good enough” and often (very often) on the receiving end of harsh criticism about the Me that others don’t like. Or if they don’t voice it, then their sudden absence from my life makes it clear that most people don’t like me.

I can only say “most” because I have obviously not met every one of the 6billion+ inhabitants on earth, but I doubt it would matter now… after almost 30 years of being beaten down by the criticism of others, after 10 yrs of counselling, after walking Hot Coals, after attending seminars, reading books, meditating, writing, crying, and all sorts of other steps to find something good in myself, these days I just wake up knowing deep down that I am worthless, a failure and that how I came to be in this damned-awful space is beyond me after all the efforts I’ve taken to gain a sense of goodness about myself.

I am not overly materialistic – and all my life I have never been caught up in trying to fit in (because I knew I was somehow different, and had few peers).
I am deeply in debt and have very few options for winning over and regaining my financial foothold…

So, accepting my imperfections… interesting… I know I am not perfect, bloody long way from it, yet society has extremely unrealistic expectations of me and is it any wonder I fail to meet them?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 15:00:00 +0000

My favorite comment on perfection is this quote “Perfection is the belief that life is broken.”

As I work to be less of a pefectionist, I need to remember that life, and myself, are not broken.

By: Christine

Christine — Wed, 23 May 2007 14:17:00 +0000

Christine from Canada here, Craig
Yes, I did enjoy my day off; thank you very much. It’s amazing how a little R & R can re-juvenate the mind, body and soul. BTW, I think I may have just found a new nickname for you. Here in Quebec, aka French Canada, there is a man on the radio who has a carpentry business and his business has a commercial jingle that goes “Monsieur Renov (as in renovate), monsieur Renov, monsieur Renov)in the man’s own gravelly voice — actually the jingle can really get on your nerves, not like you ever, Craig
Hope you carry on resucitating new
words. Light some fires, Craig, I mean monsieur Renov.

By: techhstuff

techhstuff — Wed, 23 May 2007 02:35:00 +0000

there is this page i found which tracks all the top blogs about personal development in just a single page
http://www.netreputation.co.uk/directory/Personal%20Development
you are on it too

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Tue, 22 May 2007 08:32:00 +0000

Hi Julie.

Yeh, only 57.

I'm much better since the treatment.

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By: Julie

Julie — Tue, 22 May 2007 04:54:00 +0000

hey craig I think I can sing, shame no-one else does! my laugh is too loud, i'm too politically incorrect and i say things out loud that everyone else is thinking.

only 57 bad habits? ah c'mon!

take care gorgeous man
Julie hobart tas

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Tue, 22 May 2007 01:33:00 +0000

Hi Julie.

My blunt, in-ya-face communication style ain't embraced by everyone.. but at least you and I like it!

I think too many people write what they think people want to read, rather than writing what they actually believe / think / feel.

Pity.

Cheers.

By: Julie

Julie — Tue, 22 May 2007 00:19:00 +0000

Hi Craig,

I don't know if you have ever seen the movie "The Stepford Wives" with Nicole Kidman? It's a fantastic black comedy which does a great job to illustrate your point. The town of Stepford is content and "perfect" but they miss the point as everyone seems to be missing their very souls.

BTW I really enjoy the frank and direct way you express yourself ... it's refreshing. Terrific too to hear an Aussie voice in the blogging crowd.

Cheers! Julie.

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Mon, 21 May 2007 21:57:00 +0000

Hi Jen,

Thanks.

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Mon, 21 May 2007 21:56:00 +0000

Hi Christine,

yeh, I'll continue making up my own Craigisms.

Sometimes I just can't find the appropriate term, so I create one.

All words / terms have to start somewhere, so maybe I can breath life into a few here!

Hope you enjoy/ed your day off Christine.

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