The Cerebral Minefield
What’s it like inside your mind?
Is it a healthy or unhealthy place? Is it loud and chaotic or quiet and calm? Is it a gentle breeze or a destructive hurricane? Perhaps it alternates between the two? What does the world look like from the window of your mind? Is your window clean or dirty? Big or small? Does it allow you to take in a three-sixty perspective or are you limited to a single view? Does your window have curtains which obscure your vision or is the outlook unencumbered? And speaking of your window, how do you know it’s actually yours? Did you create it? Is it possible that you’ve spent your life looking at the world through someone else’s window? Could it be that someone doesn’t want you to have your own window? Maybe they only want you to look through theirs? That way, you can only ever see their perspective. Hmm…
How does your future look? And how do you see… you? Are you more the self-awareness or the self-loathing type? If your mind was a colour, would it be light or dark. And if it was a meal, would it be fresh and natural or greasy and fried? Is your mind full of problems or solutions? Do you have an attitude of gratitude or self-pity? Are you the procrastinator or the action taker? Are you proactive or reactive? Do you manage your thoughts or do they manage you?
On many levels, our thinking determines our existence. Good-bad. Happy-sad. Productive-destructive. Anxious-calm. This makes total sense when we consider the fact that our mind is the processing centre for all of our experiences. The internal filter of our external environment; the place where everything is given meaning. Value. Power. For better or worse.
The fact that five people in the same situation can each have a unique experience tells us that our cerebral landscape (thinking, beliefs, fears, expectations, perception) is much more a determinant of personal reality than is the goings-on of the world around us. Which is why Jane’s major problem is John’s minor issue. And Bob’s life lesson. And Sal’s opportunity. And Sam’s interesting distraction. And so on. For you and me, things mean whatever we believe they mean.
And now the hard part… the changing bit.
So, did any of the above resonate? Was there a light bulb? A bell? A sense of… “shit, he’s talking about me!”. If so, good. You’re in the majority. Acknowledgement and awareness is step one of the revolution process, so well done. Don’t beat yourself up or stick your bottom lip out, simply roll up your sleeves and make a commitment to do the work. The work that works. Conversely, if you’re looking for a shortcut, quick-fix or mind-altering miracle, stop reading now.
Knowing the theory and nodding your head is not enough. We know we over-think. We know we talk ourselves into a state of paralysis. We know we catastrophise. We know we self-sabotage. Self-loathe. Self….. combust!
Now the challenge is to self-manage.
To be continued…