I just bumped into a lady at the supermarket who told me how frustrated she is with her “fat body”. Without wanting to, I somehow found myself in the middle of a consult standing in the nut section, basket in hand. And no, the fact that it was the nut section is not lost on me. Anyway, my interest was sparked when Mrs. Frustration told me “I’ve tried everything and nothing worked”.
Curious, I wanted to know what “everything” was. Here’s the list as I remember it: personal trainers (4), an exercise bike for home, numerous gym memberships, Pilates, tennis lessons, boxing, a health retreat and more diets than she could remember.
Well, it didn’t take long to discover that (1) she likes the idea of physical change more than the practical reality of creating it (2) she has an aversion to discomfort (3) she is awesome at excuses and denial and (4) she didn’t persevere with anything for longer than four weeks. I also learned that she had used her two year-old exercise bike once (it’s uncomfortable), never went back for a second tennis lesson (her back hurt) and “didn’t really enjoy the gym”.
In reality, it wasn’t that “nothing worked”.
It was that she didn’t work.