Comments on: Moving Beyond Instant Gratification.

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 07:55:00 +0000

Hereyago Elroy.

((((( )))))

That's a major Bear-Hug from Uncle Craig.

Just for you.

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 07:53:00 +0000

Hi Anon.

Wise words – thanks.

By: Elroys World ( la la la la)

Elroys World ( la la la la) — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 05:12:00 +0000

I need a cyber hug.

please…

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 04:40:00 +0000

Hi,
At work, and I haven’t had time to read all the comments, so I apologise if someone made this point. I read something that really assisted me. Intuitively we all associate pleasure with happiness, in fact some of us think pleasure is happiness. But it is not. Pleasure and Happiness are related, but pleasure often does not *lead to* happiness. When we are faced with a decision, it is wise to ask firstly, will this bring me pleasure, then ask, will this bring me happiness. If the action/decision is unlikely to lead to happiness, it doesn’t make much sense to do it! With this kind of discipline, we can limit the “bad” choices in life that lead to negative outcomes and ultimately limit our happiness. It isn’t easy or simple to apply, pleasure is very tempting, but it is a simple, and very helpful concept.

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 22:40:00 +0000

Thanks for sharing KK.

Makes sense to me.

Cheers.

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 22:38:00 +0000

Hi Karen.

You're very welcome.

Enjoy your Friday.

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 22:34:00 +0000

That's right Tam, I'm no Oprah; she doesn't have my guns!

And I don't have her money.
Or houses.
Or cars.
Or TV show.
Or influence.

Other than that - peas in a pod really!

The book club is a good idea Tam - check to todays post (up soon).

And as for:

"I don’t want to die without owning a pair of Manolo Blahnik, Black, Patent leather, peep-toe, 4 inch, slingbacks… Truth be told, I’d like to be buried in them."

I'm a bloke, so I really don't know what you're talking about.

Slingbacks? Sounds like some kinda weird-ass 60's Rock Quartet.

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By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 22:24:00 +0000

You’re welcome Freaky Annie.

By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 21:42:00 +0000

I was thinking about it this morning….. What really is the definition of hard? Is it something that is technically difficult? Is it something that is physically painful? What really does it mean?
If I am overweight for example, and I want to change…. well…. can’t I just decide I want to change… that’s just a decision right? Well that’s not hard…. that just means I have a thought in my head!!!! I do that all the time!!!
If I eat too much…. well…. why don’t I eat less…. that’s not hard… it’s actually physically less demanding on my body to eat less….
If I eat bad foods…. well… why don’t I just eat something different…. it takes the same amount of energy to go to the shops to buy a chocolate bar (or 10) that it does to go to the shops and buy an apple (or 10)…. so clearly that’s not hard!!! I do that all the time!!!
If I need to move a bit more, I could go for a walk!!!… well… that’s not hard (for most people!)… I walk every day….

Sometimes doing certain things may seem more challenging than others, but does it become an issue because we label what we have to do as ‘hard’…. “It was just too hard…. I couldn’t do it/keep it up/ make the change… etc etc!!!”
Perhaps the biggest challenge in making change is that before we’ve even begun, we’ve already told ourselves ‘this is gonna be hard…. so prepare yourself for some pain….’ Not the best incentive to make change really is it????!!!
Everything is only as ‘hard’ as we make it…. If we need some help, well… there are 3 little words you could say… “Please help me”… that’s not hard… that’s just 3 words… and we all (pretty much all) use words every day….

Just some thoughts floating round my head… Figured I’d share them.
Have a great day.
KK
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By: SunFlowerSue

SunFlowerSue — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 21:33:00 +0000

Craig:
What a wonderful gift your Blog is. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.
Karen