Comments on: The Disconnection Epidemic

By: Kin

Kin — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 01:06:55 +0000

Craig, thank you for such heart-felt post. I agree with everything you said, this disconnection had turned people into isolated individuals… only to lead to more hostile behaviors we have with everything around us. Simultaneously, the deep yearn for connection is still there, consciously and subconsciously driving our [destructive] behavior because we don’t realize it and then choose to connect. Instead, we completely miss the point and choose to gain more control, more power, more everything in order to defend our poor isolated self…

There were some writings and research into another aspect – the science of touch… as a subcategory of connection, we are seriously lacking also — genuine and sincere touch that is. That can make a nice follow-up topic to this post, yes?

- Kin

By: Scott

Scott — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 14:19:32 +0000

Hey Craig, great post there,

You have made a great point here, & plus I’ll admit I have been a huge vitim to disconnecting with people lately. However a lot has happened to me recently in my life so this is proberly the reason why.

But I have noticed that recently I have become a better listener, and this has had a major beinifit to my friendships. I also believe if your a good listener it also helps to build trust in relationship you have with people. This is what has definately happened to me

By: Suza

Suza — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:55:45 +0000

My ex-husband didn’t communicate with me .. there was a massive disconnection. So eventually I disconnected too. Him. From my life. Permanently.

The moral? I may not be able to control whether there’s a disconnection or not within individual circumstances or relationships, but I sure as hell CAN control whether I’ll keep putting energy into it or whether I’ll move on.

Because what this community (both online and through RYL) has shown me is that there ARE still plenty of people willing to connect and listen and support. And they’re where I’d rather put my energy.

Suz (Sydney)

By: Tina

Tina — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:03:37 +0000

Hey Craig !
Lagging behind here… been kinda busy myself… but wanted to comment anyway… just briefly. I’ve spent over 30 years trying to create communication with someone who seems to believe that yes and no are the answers to whatever topic I come up with… and generally they’re used inappropriately even if a yes or no would be adequate ! When he was working, I used to ask how his day had been, only to be told there was no point in talking about it because I wouldn’t understand. I ask how he went at golf… the response is usually one word… s**t ! Doesn’t matter what type of conversation I try to draw him into, I barely get a word out of him. Yet put him in a room with his “mates” and his voice is heard above all the others. Sometimes I think it’s time to give up………
{{HUG}}
Tina

By: Craig

Craig — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 11:03:05 +0000

Hi Everyone. Sorry I couldn’t answer any questions or explore your comments today… kinda busy but as always, read and appreciated your thoughts…

By: Lorraine

Lorraine — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 09:38:17 +0000

Full marks for this post, Craig. I read all of your posts and enjoy them, but this one has moved me to reply. Excellent!

By: Terry

Terry — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 07:34:06 +0000

An ex employer told me, “you have 2 ears and 1 mouth. Use them in that ratio.”

Great post as always Craig. This is something I must act on here at home at the very least.

By: Jacqui

Jacqui — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 07:10:33 +0000

How bizarre! My bestfriend and I were having a conversation about this last night.

Half of the problem is that we live in a very time poor society and the other half is people are just too lazy. The internet/sms has certainly helped people become lazier in communication. We had a kindy meetup today and one Mum is adding me to her facebook and going to sms about catching up. What happened to the phone where humans speak to one another? I so miss it. Luckily my bestie and I feel the same and chatted for 2hrs on the phone.

Craig for President of the World. You would get my vote on the proviso that all this stuff gets taught at schools so the next generation grows up with a much more positive well balanced self esteem. I reckon it is more important to teach kids about looking after themselves andeach other than all the history in the world.

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Jac

By: Michael - Brisbane

Michael - Brisbane — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 06:35:30 +0000

Mel – your mum hasn’t moved on, she’s just gone to where my mum went last year and all pets and people are, that’s what i believe anyway.

Your point Mel in the first paragraph is wonderful, that has helped me manage what has gone in my life, that is, I used to prattle on and fill in the blanks, disconnected from other’s views and myself not listening. Hence I am not over my loss (if it is that) of the person I would have at a minimum liked to have been friends with.

Littlejohn, great comments again from you. The issue for me is, there are shoulds or should nots in this world. I can’t shake the ‘i shoulds. I hope i do one day.

And Paul, yes give the internet time, I meet a lot of people professionally and socially off the internet is but a medium of communication. Disconnection seems to come from humans, not machines (again my view).

By: Vicente

Vicente — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 06:28:47 +0000

Hi Craig,
I was born where “disconnection” already exist. So true as I quote you “we live in a time when mankind is hemorrhaging on many levels; physically, emotionally, socially, spiritually and environmentally, and yet despite our condition, we seem to be resistant to learning.” but in contrast, we are now in a century where high- end technologies surround us. Nothing is impossible. Life became easier and more convenient. We are now connected to development if we are open and ready to embrace the changes.

I will bookmark this website for future reference. Keep it up!