Comments on: Talking vs. Communicating

By: TangerineDream

TangerineDream — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 12:35:00 +0000

You know exactly how to hit the nail on the head….I have trouble communicating because I’m a woos…..and a manager to boot….did I mention woos? Still, after all these years, trying to work out how to get people to do ’stuff’ at work that they ’should’ (yep baby-boomer rule there) do because it’s their hjob without being handheld and babysat….on one hand I’m told I’m too blunt, but on the other I’m too soft…

more on communicating well please, for those of us who dont…

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By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 01:43:00 +0000

Hi Monica – I’m gonna check Nancy out – thanks.

I’ll let my mum know.

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By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 01:41:00 +0000

Hi featherfour… your dad sounds cool. ( )

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 00:46:00 +0000

Okay, so this post started me thinking about a theory about listening I read about recently, called "higher order listening". A woman called Nancy Kline espouses this view and believes that listening well (taking time to pause not just once while you wait for your 'turn'to talk, but a 2nd & 3rd time too)can improve the intelligence of those you are listening to! Radical thought & maybe I don't have enough time here to explain it in full, but it basically comes about, she says, from the fact that if you know someone is going to listen respectfully & is genuinely considering your words, then you can't help but give your snswer a certain depth of thought. Moreover, this type of listening can utterly transform the way people relate & interact, by creating a much more positive enviroment.
Anyhow, maybe that's exactly what your post was about, but just thought I'd also share this idea by Nancy Kline.
As for the women thing (not figuring them out), I don't believe you either, you SNAG !!
Thank your Mum for us - I think she did something good.
cheers,
Monica

By: featherfour

featherfour — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 23:11:00 +0000

I loved your Big Al story. It made me think of my dad. Dad was a carpenter who became a teacher.

As a dad he was…well, I'm sure he did his best, but life often got in the way and he's (like the rest of us) not perfect. But as a teacher there was none better.

I loved learning to drive with Dad. He was far, FAR more patient than Mum, but better than that, he would show, not just tell me, how to improve.

Well, I'm not perfect either, (especially when it came to teaching my kids to drive) but I have those moments with my dad where I learned that he was a whole different person.

There need to be a lot more Big Als and Dads out there.

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 23:04:00 +0000

Glad I could teach you that lesson Kel and thanks for the sympathy…

* BTW, I love Mac and Cheese… and I love the history of tofu.. you are a talent.

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 22:37:00 +0000

Thanks Patricia.. yeah, Big Al taught me well.

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My parents did okay too!

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 22:36:00 +0000

Didn't I just do that Jeanne?

Cheers..

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By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 22:35:00 +0000

You know I hate it when you hold back Ange... what do you really think! You made me laugh out loud over my morning oats... too funny.

Fascinating snapshot of your childhood too - thanks for being your normal controversial, hilarious, provocative and insightful self.

We all love your honesty and your comments. Well, I do.

Here's a hug you don't want ( )

Give it to someone who needs one

By: Craig Harper

Craig Harper — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 22:27:00 +0000

Hi Anon

Mojo?

Really?

Thanks!