Comments on: People Pleasers http://www.craigharper.com.au/communication/people-pleasers/ Personal Development Life Lessons Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:42:24 +1000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: jean http://www.craigharper.com.au/communication/people-pleasers/comment-page-1/#comment-22989 jean Wed, 23 Jun 2010 11:45:28 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/people-pleasers/#comment-22989 i am a people pleaser, i now have post traumatic stress disorder from trying to please my verbally violent drug addict daughter for the last 15 years i am a people pleaser, i now have post traumatic stress disorder from trying to please my verbally violent drug addict daughter for the last 15 years

]]> By: Julie http://www.craigharper.com.au/communication/people-pleasers/comment-page-1/#comment-16713 Julie Fri, 16 Oct 2009 10:36:08 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/people-pleasers/#comment-16713 Story of my life. Story of my life.

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]]> By: Anonymous http://www.craigharper.com.au/communication/people-pleasers/comment-page-1/#comment-7962 Anonymous Thu, 21 Aug 2008 19:59:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/people-pleasers/#comment-7962 Having lived with a people pleaser for the past 5 years, let's see the other side..never shares feelings, always feels resentful, can't take any responsibility for their own pain/pleasure. Reliant on the partner who becomes frustrated and THEN becomes insenstive, angry, frustrated and this cycle is then blamed on that partner because people pleaser has strangled all the good intentions with their martyrdom and poor me's. ALWAYS two sides to that story. Ya, poor people pleasers who thrive on making others feel less giving, loving and self sacrificing and who ends up with the pain when after they've subverted all those awful feelings til they finally "find themselves" and leave YOU feeling like you've been hit by a truck? Don't stand up after 5 years of your own deceptive behaviour and tell me I'm abusive when you've lied and hidden everything for so long there's no going back. Backatcha from a People Pleaser VICTIM. Ciao and out. Having lived with a people pleaser for the past 5 years, let’s see the other side..never shares feelings, always feels resentful, can’t take any responsibility for their own pain/pleasure. Reliant on the partner who becomes frustrated and THEN becomes insenstive, angry, frustrated and this cycle is then blamed on that partner because people pleaser has strangled all the good intentions with their martyrdom and poor me’s. ALWAYS two sides to that story. Ya, poor people pleasers who thrive on making others feel less giving, loving and self sacrificing and who ends up with the pain when after they’ve subverted all those awful feelings til they finally “find themselves” and leave YOU feeling like you’ve been hit by a truck? Don’t stand up after 5 years of your own deceptive behaviour and tell me I’m abusive when you’ve lied and hidden everything for so long there’s no going back. Backatcha from a People Pleaser VICTIM. Ciao and out.

]]> By: Craig Harper http://www.craigharper.com.au/communication/people-pleasers/comment-page-1/#comment-4940 Craig Harper Sun, 10 Feb 2008 20:24:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/people-pleasers/#comment-4940 Hi Stephen.<br/><br/>Thanks dropping by.<br/>Yeah, I was a big people pleaser with the only result being exhaustion on my part. <br/><br/>Didn't see the Darren Rouse letter. I'll check it out.<br/>Enjoy your week.<br/><br/>Cheers Hi Stephen.

Thanks dropping by.
Yeah, I was a big people pleaser with the only result being exhaustion on my part.

Didn’t see the Darren Rouse letter. I’ll check it out.
Enjoy your week.

Cheers

]]> By: Craig Harper http://www.craigharper.com.au/communication/people-pleasers/comment-page-1/#comment-4939 Craig Harper Sun, 10 Feb 2008 20:21:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/people-pleasers/#comment-4939 Hi KK. Super Craig it is. I'm off to find my cape. ( ) Hi KK. Super Craig it is. I’m off to find my cape. ( )

]]> By: Stephen Hopson/Adversity University http://www.craigharper.com.au/communication/people-pleasers/comment-page-1/#comment-4935 Stephen Hopson/Adversity University Sun, 10 Feb 2008 12:52:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/people-pleasers/#comment-4935 Craig:<br/><br/>You've been on my radar for some time now and I just learned about this article through a link at Liz Strauss' blog.<br/><br/>What an excellent "letter"!! There's a little bit of a people pleaser in everyone and then there's the alternate. I think I have both genes in me.<br/><br/>I tend to be a nice guy but I also have across my forehead that it's not okay to step over the line. I tend to be forthright and honest about what I think. Sometimes I hurt people's feelings because of my directness but most of the time I manage to soften the impact by choosing my words dipomatically.<br/><br/>Great job! It reminded me of an something Darren Rouse over at Problogger did when he wrote an open love letter to Adsense. It was an attempt to get them to see the error of their ways. Did you see it?<br/><br/>Anyway, nice job. Are you a people pleaser yourself? A little bit? I'm betting you are like me - you have a little of both in you. Because how else would you be able to write such a great letter? Craig:

You’ve been on my radar for some time now and I just learned about this article through a link at Liz Strauss’ blog.

What an excellent “letter”!! There’s a little bit of a people pleaser in everyone and then there’s the alternate. I think I have both genes in me.

I tend to be a nice guy but I also have across my forehead that it’s not okay to step over the line. I tend to be forthright and honest about what I think. Sometimes I hurt people’s feelings because of my directness but most of the time I manage to soften the impact by choosing my words dipomatically.

Great job! It reminded me of an something Darren Rouse over at Problogger did when he wrote an open love letter to Adsense. It was an attempt to get them to see the error of their ways. Did you see it?

Anyway, nice job. Are you a people pleaser yourself? A little bit? I’m betting you are like me – you have a little of both in you. Because how else would you be able to write such a great letter?

]]> By: Kate http://www.craigharper.com.au/communication/people-pleasers/comment-page-1/#comment-4932 Kate Sat, 09 Feb 2008 22:25:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/people-pleasers/#comment-4932 Why is it that we lose sight of those child-hood dreams, and get all caught up in adult-hood!!! We forget to have fun, and live our dreams!!!<br/>I guess it's good to have children around as a reminder of how simple life should be and do stuff that makes us happy.<br/>Perhaps we all need to be reminded to get in touch with that inner child and live the dreams we all used to have. How many people wanted to be a fireman, or teacher, or perform on the stage, or be a magician or an acrobat or whatever it was???I had been living my dreams through my children, but realised that I too can be part of the fun.<br/>I can totally recommend dressing up as a super hero and saving the world!!! Totally crazy, but loads of fun!!!! And my kids loved it too!!!<br/>Am guessin' you'll be a tired boy today CH.... Bit late for you to be up last nite wasn't it??? Apparently sleep is important?!?<br/>Love ya heaps....<br/>Be good<br/>KK<br/>XXXXX Why is it that we lose sight of those child-hood dreams, and get all caught up in adult-hood!!! We forget to have fun, and live our dreams!!!
I guess it’s good to have children around as a reminder of how simple life should be and do stuff that makes us happy.
Perhaps we all need to be reminded to get in touch with that inner child and live the dreams we all used to have. How many people wanted to be a fireman, or teacher, or perform on the stage, or be a magician or an acrobat or whatever it was???I had been living my dreams through my children, but realised that I too can be part of the fun.
I can totally recommend dressing up as a super hero and saving the world!!! Totally crazy, but loads of fun!!!! And my kids loved it too!!!
Am guessin’ you’ll be a tired boy today CH…. Bit late for you to be up last nite wasn’t it??? Apparently sleep is important?!?
Love ya heaps….
Be good
KK
XXXXX

]]> By: Craig Harper http://www.craigharper.com.au/communication/people-pleasers/comment-page-1/#comment-4930 Craig Harper Sat, 09 Feb 2008 14:01:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/people-pleasers/#comment-4930 Hi Jen.<br/><br/>It pays the same as this site!!<br/>LOL. Lucky it's all about the message!<br/><br/>( ) Hi Jen.

It pays the same as this site!!
LOL. Lucky it’s all about the message!

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]]> By: Craig Harper http://www.craigharper.com.au/communication/people-pleasers/comment-page-1/#comment-4929 Craig Harper Sat, 09 Feb 2008 13:59:00 +0000 http://www.craigharper.com.au/news/people-pleasers/#comment-4929 Hello Sherylb.<br/><br/>Make sure you wrap those home truths around some timing and some wisdom....<br/><br/>Cheers. Hello Sherylb.

Make sure you wrap those home truths around some timing and some wisdom….

Cheers.

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