Comments on: Dealing with Energy Vampires

By: NewMom

NewMom — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 19:25:01 +0000

Hey Craig,
What if your mother, or mother in law is an energy vampire? How do you deal?

By: Anon

Anon — Sat, 12 Mar 2011 02:58:30 +0000

I’ve just read this and this all seems so true. At times I have felt so deeply drained and unhappy at work and have sensed negative energies from people at work. I’ve left it at this because I always try to do the best I can for people. Last month I was promoted to a manager’s role and since then I have had people who I thought were my friends criticising any steps I have made to improve various things at work. I have had people deliberately lying about supposed actions I have taken or things that I have said as well as people subtley putting me down in ways. All of the feedback I have recieved from managers has been highly positive and there has been nothing negative there. But all of the rest of this has now left me utterly drained, demotivated, frustrated and upset. Now I realise why! Thank you for this I hope to make changes in how I interact with individuals in my workplace who have done a great job at depleting all my positive energy!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 12:36:34 +0000

“I bent over him, and tried to find any sign of life, but in vain.”
- Bram Stoker, Chapter 4, Dracula

That is the motif of the vampire. To prey on and suck the energy from you. In vain, I too have tried to reason with, negotiate with, work with, help, listen to and be sympathetic to a couple of them in my life. But as of late I have taken the metaphorical mallet and driven two stakes. I shall still run into them, but if the clouds above their heads are gray , it will be I who turns into the bat and flies away. For I cherish the smiles bestowed up me and I share mine with others and nevermore shall the Count Dracula’s of the world inhabit mine.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 03 May 2010 05:04:48 +0000

Hi,
i feel the same.

my ex-girlfriend was an energy vampire. and i was attached to her, by sex

By: Little Purple Piggy

Little Purple Piggy — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 05:04:23 +0000

what about energy givers?

By: Tracy

Tracy — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 04:43:08 +0000

I realise that a friend of mine is like this. She’s not so much negative, as a constant talker who is quite obsessed with people who have wronged her in the past such as her 2 ex-husbands, her ex-husbands’ families and a previous employer. Just about every time I talk to her, she will mention one of these people at least once in a bitter way. I deal with this by changing the subject, quite abruptly sometimes, but she keeps going back to it. It’s now gotten to the stage where I see her caller ID on my phone and just ignore it, because she will talk about herself for at least half an hour without interruption. I feel guilty about this though, because she’s been very good to me in the past in helping me through a bad patch and giving me material help. I feel I owe her a lot, so I listen to her rants and raves, but feel increasingly frustrated by her self-obsession. She has many good points, but I just want her to lighten up and have some fun instead of going over and over the bad things that have happened to her in her life. Everyone has had bad things happen to them – I feel you can’t look back. You just have to learn from them and think of the future, not the past.

By: mike

mike — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 01:31:15 +0000

Hi man,

Thank you for your insights. I wonder if you can give me advice on how to deal with an energy vampire who I cannot avoid.

It is about my mom. She doesn’t like her job nor her life, and she makes sure to remind me of that every single day, even though I think she just makes major of minors and is causing unnecessary frustration for herself. Even now when I live in another city and have a stressful job, she still continues her habit of calling me every day and complain about her misery – same ones for the last 10 years. Nowadays, even an 1-minute conversation with her will drain my energy and I realize that this cannot continue! I’ve listened to her patiently and tried to come up with solutions for years, and yet nothing seems to help! she just returns with the same problems with the same people about the same issues which we have had the same conversation about for many times. I notice how I have become more and more angry at her when she starts complaining, but I do not want to be a bad son.

So what would you suggest that I do? I am a positive, hardworking person, and I have difficult targets that i want to achieve (so i need my energy). I really want my mom to feel good, but I cannot continue living this way (knowing that she will continue draining my energy every f day till I am like 60 years old..). Please advice me on how to deal with her, I would really appreciate your help!

Many thanks,

Mike

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 05:06:32 +0000

I believe my girlfriend is an emotional vampire. At the start of our relationship I was a happy and healthy 23 year old. In the 15 months of our relationship I have had constant health problems and have become sad and weak. My girlfriend has many alleged mental and physical health problems and apparently has had a series of terrible things happen to her in the past. However I think she mostly suffers from compulsive lying and constantly makes up stories for me to feel sorry for her. She never does anything about her problems just makes excuses. The worst thing about it all is that she has become so dependent of me that she has to constantly be in my presence and calls constantly. I have followed some advice from this article. I have reduced the contact with her to once a week and have outlined things she needs to do if she wants to stay in the relationship. Is there a cure for being a so called vampire or is there no hope of ever being happy in our relationship?

By: Yanira Vargas

Yanira Vargas — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 02:33:22 +0000

how do u know if u are one
p.s thinking positive helps not as much as love..

By: Ally

Ally — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 11:15:12 +0000

What if your spouse is an energy vampire?