Conversational Awareness

Tweet If you think that a productive, healthy conversation is all about words, think again. In many instances, it’s what’s not being said that makes or breaks a conversation. If you’re a person with a desire to be an effective (if not, exceptional) communicator and conversationalist (leader, teacher, coach, manager, boss, parent), it’s in your [...]


Making Shit Hard

Tweet Here’s the scene… I’m at the gym doing what I do and a few metres away from me a lady is trying unsuccessfully to put a handle on a Lat Pull machine. She struggles for about sixty seconds and stupidly (and apparently, sexistly), I offer to help. I know I can attach it in [...]


The Stories we tell Ourselves

Tweet Your mind is unique. And brilliant. At times, terrifying. In some ways it’s limitless. And limited. Sometimes it’s a calm and gentle breeze and sometimes it’s an over-thinking, fearful, anxious shit-fest of cerebral chaos. Either way, it’s yours and although you can’t get a new one, the good news is you can renovate you [...]


How to Operate a Bloke – Part 27: Communication

Tweet “He’s a Terrible Communicator” … or is he? Over the last thirty years, I’ve heard a version of the above statement many times. Keeping in mind that more than seventy percent of my clients over the years have been women, this comes as no big surprise. Well ladies, if you’ll allow me to, today [...]


When to Unfriend

Tweet The healthiest friendships develop spontaneously and organically. They don’t always ‘make sense’, they are not hard work, they are not strategic and there is no score card. Unfortunately, not all friendships are… well, friendly. Ironic, I know. I am constantly amazed by the stories my clients share with me regarding the behaviour of their [...]


Trying to Change Others

Tweet People are always asking me how they can ‘change’ their partner, parents, children and/or friends. And when they say ‘change’, they’re generally talking about modifying someone’s thinking, attitudes, habits, beliefs, behaviours and outcomes. Or part thereof. They usually don’t like my answer. Trying to change another person is generally an exercise in futility and [...]