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Hi Guys. I will be in Sydney this Thursday speaking at the MFAA Convention and then up to the Central Coast on Friday to speak at a Conference for Westpac. I will be staying at the Novatel on Darling Harbour on Thursday night and as I have some free time, I thought that some of you might wanna hook up for a chat and a coffee. Possibly a feed. Maybe some arm wrestling. Anyway, I will be in the foyer of the Novatel at 7.30 sharp this Thursday night (15th) if any of you would like to hang out with me for an hour or two. There could be twenty of us - or just you and me. Or maybe just me! I look forward to meeting you if you can make it along. I will be the tall, athletic, incredibly good looking, humble one in the corner.
Also... a few years ago I read a book called Catch Me If You Can - you've probably seen the film with Leonardo DiCaprio. I was so interested in the true story and the man who wrote it (Frank Abagnale) that I read the book four or five times. It's probably a boy thing but I found his experiences to be utterly fascinating.So anyway, guess who else is speaking at the MFAA gig I'm doing? Big Frank that's who! How excited am I?He probably doesn't wanna meet me but he's going to anyway! On with today's post..
I don't like you.
Four words we hate to hear. For some reason, we all like to be liked. No revelation there. It's how we're wired. We hate it when people don't like us - even people we don't really know. Some of us will do almost anything to be liked. We love to please, even at the expense of our own happiness, values, beliefs and standards. We compromise ourselves a hundred ways and turn ourselves inside-out trying to make others like us, but in that approval-seeking process we often forget who we are and wind up being disliked by the one person whose opinion should matter the most; us.
Newsflash 1: Some people aren't gonna like you. Newsflash 2: That's okay.
That's right - life ain't fair and even though you may very well be a fantastic human being, some people will find a reason to dislike you no matter what you do or how fabulous you are. Chances are it's more about their issues than anything you have or haven't done. There are people who don't like me who have never actually met me or had a conversation with me. That's fine with me. I won't invest emotional energy into things I can't change. I will endeavour to be the best Craig Harper I can be and if my best still generates critics and people who find reason to dislike me (which it will), that's okay. The only person I can change is me, so I'll focus on improving, educating and developing myself rather than trying to create a fan club or convince people to like me.
While it's normal and very human to have the desire to be needed, liked, loved and important to others, it's also crucial for our development to get clear about who we are and what we stand for, and to live a life consistent with those values - to like ourselves. Otherwise we simply become frustrated People Pleasers.
Newsflash 3: It's okay to disagree with people. Even people you like and respect.
Newsflash 4: Some people's overwhelming need to be liked is the very thing that makes them hard to like (there's some irony for you).
Newsflash 5: For many people, their need to be liked is actually a significant barrier to their personal and professional growth.
When it comes to this issue, you might want to ask yourself these questions:
1. Do I speak the truth (while still exercising care, wisdom and understanding) even if it's not popular to do so? 2. Do I live a life which is consistent with my core values? 3. Do I operate with integrity? 4. Do I believe that my motives are good? 5. Is it my goal to be a positive influence in the lives of others? 6. Am I happy to disagree with people I like? 7. Do I (really) like me?
If you answered yes to all of the above then you're doing pretty well. If there were more crosses than ticks then you may want to make a few changes. Soon. Some short-term pain for some long-term gain.
If you really want to be liked, then stop trying to be liked and start being you.
*Don't forget, if you're in the vicinity of Darling Harbour this Thursday night come and have a weak, decaf, skim, soy latte with me. Or six beers and some pizza.
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Motivational
Speaker - Craig Harper Craig Harper is one of Australia's most respected
motivational speakers and educators. Some of Craig's recent clients include:
"We had our annual
conference over the weekend of the 23rd and 24th Feb, 2008 and we had
Craig Harper as one of our presenters. He was wonderful, funny and
professional, and he got our message through to the staff in a positive
and fun way. He was loved by all!"
DVD
- Renovate Your Body - Craig Harper
In this entertaining presentation, Craig discusses the
notion of Renovating Your Body - once and for all. (Also
available on CD).
Fattitude
- Craig Harper
While many books focus on food,
Craig Harper teaches that creating life long change is more about the
dieter than the actual diet.
Food for thought
- Craig Harper
In this book, Craig Harper
walks the reader through his 21 rules to Permanent Weight Loss.
So you've decided you want to get in shape (again)
- Craig Harper
Imagine a pocket-sized fitness book that takes just twenty minutes to
read. Craig Harper addresses the REAL getting-in-shape issues.
Alinta
Telstra
ANZ Bank
Commonwealth Bank of Australia
National Australia Bank
Corporate Express
Pricewaterhouse Coopers
Department of Infrastructure
Department Planning and Community Development
Simplot Australia
Porter Davis Homes
Rothschild Merchant Bank
Royal Children's Hospital
Fernwood Fitness Centres
Flour Daniel
Brivis
Sensis
Western Water
South East Water
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here.Some nice words about Craig:
"We had our annual conference over the weekend of the 23rd and 24th Feb, 2008 and we had Craig Harper as one of our presenters. He was wonderful, funny and professional, and he got our message through to the staff in a positive and fun way. He was loved by all!"
Ally Memic, IMCD, Australia